My 13 year old DD used to be an outgoing happy caring funny child until she started high school and was introduced to the Internet.
She had a friend who taught her to talk to strangers online and was then a victim of grooming last year, we had the police involved etc but then DD tried taking tablets she ended up in hospital twice and still the mental health services were not interested ¯\(ツ)/¯.
She hated school and felt totally manipulated by this one girl who was her BFF but DD felt it easier to stay friends with her rather than make an enemy of her. BFF always had BF’s from an early age and DD was always the go between.
Finally I got DD under the CAF team for support and councilling of sorts as she became so low and her self esteem and confidence is now non existent.
Still she continued to chat to older lads online all I could do was take her phone away and check her accounts and if she changed passwords I’d remind her I pay the bills and the phone is actually my property.
We finally moved her school and things seemed to go ok but yet again she has only made a couple of friends one now being her BF whom is 16 yea she is only 13! I’m at my wits end but I know she would only see him behind me back so I have met him and he is allowed to visit her at home I’ve also had meetings with the school who agree with me.
If her other friend isn’t at school DD will say her anxiety kicks in and she is afraid to go into school alone and feels people are talking about her so she will fake illness and not want to go or she will cry and cry until she’s sick. It is so sad because academically she is a fantastic student and I know she can do so much better than I ever could.
Again I’ve talked with the school who have now applied for an ESO Education Supervision Order this basically means the social will want to get to know us as a family and ensure DD attends school all the time. But when they find out she has an older BF that’s when she will finally realise that not attending school has also ruined her relationship!
I also hope she realises too that this goes to court! I am the one being blamed I can get fined or sent to prison but she doesn’t seem to care 😔
The other very sad thing is she rarely visits her only grandparents now saying it’s too boring, I am an only child and so is she, my parents are very poorly now, Dad has vascular dementia and mum is his career they constantly need my help so Im torn between helping them, work, time with my partner who also works, time for myself and trying to be there for DD too I am so tired!
On top of all this she is a typical lazy teen! I have to nag and nag to get any help.
DD was born with a rare blood disorder which meant she had to have a splenectomy aged 6 she has to take tablets twice a day for life and even after all this time she still forgets every single day! I have to physically hand it to her with a drink and watch her take it.
She doesn’t take care of herself at all, was even refused braces because her teeth were not looked after.
Just coping with that is enough but with the rest of it I feel so let down and such a failure 😔
I just want my Daughter back please 😔