I have two DS 22 and 17 and we seem to just be constantly dealing with the chaos they create. In the past thre have been issues with using and dealing drugs, with the eldest we have had stealing, gambling and taking anything he could get his hands on. He has left home 3 times and has just tried to come back and we have said no. He constantly asks for money. The youngest seems to have gone out of his way to follow in his brothers footsteps and got into a whole heap of trouble with a dealer that cost us £700+ to get him out of. Then he was accused of robbing somone and we had to pay another £200 or so to deal with that. He has been accused again of setting up an attempted robbery and this one was nothing to do with him because he was already laying very low because of his previous issues.
Now the eldest has got himself into £2k of trouble with a dealer and came asking us for money, we have said no. We have spent years trying to deal with his drug issues and paying his debts off, giving him money for drug debts and we have had enough. He has tried everything to get us to pay this debt, telling us he will get stabbed, they will kill him, his girlfriend will hate him ......on and on ....wants us to gaurantaur a loan ......NOT HAPPENING. Has to,d us that these people know where we live ..........we have to move now and this was my dream house.
I am at a loss as to why my kids have behaved so atrociously, I am disgusted with them both. We have told our eldest that he needs to leave the area, we will help him get set up in a new place somewhere else but he will have to stand on his own two feet.
The younger one is terrified now, he is too scared to leave our immediate area, is spending a lot of time at home and has I think learnt a lesson that his older brother hasn't. He doesn't want us to move but we cannot stay here anymore. I don't think they realise how badly we are affected by their behaviour, they have destroyed the past few years of our lives. To be honest I wish they would both just go away, I am exhausted by them and sick and tired of the drama.......but they are still my kids and I do love them at the same time. I am just sick of them and the shit they pull