What happened to my sweet DS?

[gizzystardust]

I'm at a loss.

I know this is probably common so do forgive me as 16 year old DD was very well behaved in her early teenage years so I don't have much experience with rude teenagers.

DS has become a monster. He's rude, he argues just for the sake of arguments, he refuses to do any housework, he's physically violent to DD (had complaints from her saying that he randomly shoved her into a wall and left a bruise on her cheek yesterday) he thinks he can get away with shouting and swearing at me and telling me to shut up. He stays up till very late despite what we tell him and I get lots of agro off him when I tell him to go to bed because he is incapable of getting up (and also shouts at me when I try to wake him up)

He was such a sweet boy, and I don't think I've raised him particularly badly. I miss him, I feel like I've lost my son, it sounds stupid but I do. All my friends with teenage sons say their sons are relatively respectful and helpful. What's going on with him?

I'm with you Gizzy, how old is he? I'm struggling to understand where teenager stuff begins and ends, and where real problems are emerging. Mine is 13 and has started lying, being aggressive, not giving a shit about his stuff or his academic work. Confrontation most days, and punishments not having desired impact.

As well as wondering where my lovely DS has gone, I am apalled at my own behaviour - I know what I should do, but am hyper-critical and really really horrible to him. Every day I vow to get a grip, but as new stuff happens, eventually I lose it.

I'm scared of how this plays out over the next few years.

If he’s staying up late gizzy, what’s he doing?