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Daughter with anxiety

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Manchester93 · 12/06/2018 12:35

Hi there, my 15 year old daughter (year 10) has been suffering with school anxiety and has been home-schooled since Christmas as we could no longer get her in. She has been motivated and working well at home up to now, has been having regular private counselling and is about to get some CBT with CAMHS. She has the odd meltdown every couple of weeks which normally doesn't last more than a day, but the current one seems to be worse than usual. She won't get up now, weeping and insisting on catching up sleep in the day, so no doubt her sleep will suffer again and the cycle could continue. Trying not to project this all too far into the future! I've suffered from clinical depression and panic disorder myself in the past so it's easy to get fearful I guess. I'm struggling not to become a bully to get her to stay awake. Should I just let whatever cycle it is work its way out? She is exhausted by swinging between wishing she was able to cope with school and wishing she never had to see it again. Still on role and occasional support from teaching staff when we ask for it, but no pastoral support from the school at all, which was partly where all this originated... She has a few friends that she meets with at weekends outside school. Would be lovely to hear some ideas as I feel very alone with it all, despite supportive husband, and gave up work to home ed.

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noahwyleswife · 12/06/2018 21:18

Hi, don’t have advice I’m afraid but just wanted to say that you’re not alone, no matter how lonely it feels. Sounds like you’re being incredibly supportive and doing everything you can to help your daughter, You must be pretty exhausted yourself.
It’s so hard this parenting thing isn’t it?

Monkee4 · 12/06/2018 21:26

Does she use her phone a lot? Just wondering if she is seeing stuff on there which is making her feel bad about herself and her situation and the fact that she couldn't go to school. Can you get her interested in any other hobbies or groups (I know people always say this and it is not always the answer/possible) I think it is a very good thing that she sees friends at the weekend but do they go to mainstream school? Does she socialise with any other teens who are homeschooled? Would it help to empathise with others in a similar situation. Don't wish to be negative but CBT did nothing for me. Although I know some people swear by it it is not for everyone. There are other types of counselling treatment out there. Hypnotherapy for instance?

Dodie66 · 12/06/2018 21:36

Do you think she might have depression too? Sounds like she might need medication. As you have had it she might have it too. I would see your GP about it if I were you.

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