My 18 year old daughter and grand baby.

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Moved out tonight. My daughter got pregnant at 17. We supported her all through pregnancy. She graduated high school 22 weeks pregnant. The boyfriend has been involved and supportive of her. They got engaged. I let him move in our home ( mistake). He was really good for awhile.

My granddaughter was born in April. I moved my other daughter out of a room so they could have a nursery for the baby and a room for them in a separate part of the house. We agreed they would stay in our home so she could get a quick trade degree.
Since my granddaughter has been born the dad has changed. He becomes very dark. I know that they are young and a new baby is a big change but this is different. He tosses and slammed things around and it scares my daughter. Come to find out it’s because he thinks I am holding the baby to much or having anything to do with baby to much at all. So I totally back off to only when my daughter asks but very rarly because he gets angry. The baby is in dirty clothes all day until he gets home from work because she wants him to involved with the baby. It got really weird and very tense. My daughter has a license but doesn’t drive. He undermines her as a mother so it makes her feel inadequate. I feel like he has become very controlling. My daughter said that he makes her feel crazy and I can see why.
All of a sudden they decide to move out and get married. They set a date to get married next week at a court house. All my daughter dreams that she kept telling me that she wants gone. My husband ( her dad) cannot get off work. My mother ( her grandma) that we have lived next door to all her life is having heart surgery the day before the date they chose. I am really hurt.

I decided to kick the boyfriend out and knowing that she would most likely go with him. I couldn’t take the tension in my own home anymore and I feel like she has a lesson she needs to learn. She doesn’t appreciate her family so now we are gone. I love her and my granddaughter dearly and they are always welcome back but not him. She was my best friend. She has had everything a girl could want.

Please get her back u need to help her regardless of what the bf says she can't leave baby in dirty clothes till he comes in can he not put the pynamas on baby at nyt why wouldn't u have said something to her that it isn't acceptable u have just put that them out and she is clearly in a bad place with this man and the baby did nothing wrong how do u know they have somewhere to go are u not more worried about there safety especially the child why did u not tell this guy his behaviour was unacceptable in ure house he has no right to say u can't hold baby they were in ure house didn't u voice ure concern to ure daughter she is clearly being controlled she is having to get married probably not how she wanted or on the date she wanted he picked the date not her so stop being upset about it contact her and ask them to come over just d
Say u are sorry ure just about worried about the baby u don't think it's getting what it should be from ure daughter do not say she's a bad mum but ud like to help them reach them if they are unsure say u don't want to hold baby a time just help out from time to time and tell him he needs to calm down abit sometimes ask them to move back in plz they have no were to go with a baby and ure daughter is in way over her head u need to work on her daily telling her what is wrong with him and the stuff she does say can we not have small wedding

Your daughter needs to be with you, not him, and you need to do everything you can to support her and help her stand up to him. He sounds controlling and abusive and it's only a matter of time before it becomes physical.

That’s really frightening! Can you ring her health visitor and share your concerns? (Is pnd, which it sounds like she has and not surprising in such an unhealthy relationship,) enough for someone to not be of sufficiently of sound mind to enter marriage?