Phone usage

[btsmarthub]

What is reasonable/normal? Since my eldest dd changed schools (sixth form) she’s become obsessed by her phone. She spends most of her time on it having banter with her friends via Snapchat.

I’m happy that she’s got friends and she tells me I don’t understand how people communicate these days. I do remember the days of hours-long phone chats as a teenager but for my daughter, she could spend all day on her phone, literally.

We’ve tried adding “moment” to all our phones to track usage and she’s supposed to be limited to an hour per weekday and 2 hours per weekend day, but she says that’s very unreasonable.

She’s very unmotivated by school work and does as little as possible. I think this is linked to her phone usage.

Thoughts?

Yep, they are obsessed, it’s like crack cocaine and they are too immature to manage it. Lead by example and have basic rules in place. It’s not normal to be on a phone constantly.

Ours are - all phones on the sideboard when you come in. No phones at the dinner table and no phones in bedrooms. No phones in cars (we’ve had a couple of vomiting incidents).

My DSD (13) has gone off to do an activity and was told by her dad to leave her phone charging. I’ve had to turn it on silent as it’s driving me nuts - in 30 mins she’s had over 100 Instagram messages. She said she feels under pressure to replay back. Puts too much pressure on young kids and they don’t know how to manage it.

Thanks. DD says I’m ABNORMAL (shouting!) to say no phones in bedrooms. She is 17 — nearly an adult as she keeps telling me — but unable to control her addiction.

It's become the normal unfortunately.
Do you pay for her phone? If so then you can try and get some control over it.
With my step son we have rules about no phones during dinner or when we are having a conversation.
Also if his grades drop then he gets put on a minimal contract with no data allowance so he can only use it when he's connected to WiFi.
Fun enough after that threat his grades picked up.

That’s the reaction of an addict OP. You are not abnormal. It’s your house and you’re the adult. Do you pay for the phone?

We’ve put the no bedroom rule in place as they cant be trusted to not use it. Blue light is well proven to disturb sleep. One was caught lying - said she wasn’t using the phone, WhatsApp said differently- she wS online in the early hours of the morning. No One is that important that they need to be glued to a phone.

She is 17 u can't limit hér phone usage but u can say homework done first and she doesn't need it in school bug she's 17 u can't really be treating her like a little girl