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Teen sleepover

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JP61 · 26/04/2018 17:32

I am going away for 3 nights to our lodge very soon and my 19 year old has asked if he can stay at home with his girlfriend. I’m really not comfortable with this and can’t see why he can’t just stay in the house alone. Any advice

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MountainSkies · 26/04/2018 17:33

Have they not been together long? He asked but most teens just would have just done it anyway and not told you! Any reason why ours uncomfortable seeing as he is 19?

Fishcakey · 26/04/2018 17:37

I am impressed he asked and didn't just hide it from you. Give him the contraception lecture and let them get on with it. It may still be innocent anyway!

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JP61 · 26/04/2018 17:42

He’s been left alone before and spent most of his time at home when he said he was staying at his girlfriends. She’s not on contraception after telling my son numerous times to get her to the doctors. I’ve taken them both away with us several times and the girlfriend is lazy and disrespectful of our lodge. She annoys me and she refuses to work!

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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 26/04/2018 17:42

It’s fine.

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JP61 · 26/04/2018 17:44

They’ve been together a year. I’ve taken them away several times to our lodge and the girlfriends shown disrespect for the place and she is lazy and won’t work! That’s what puts me off. When my son tells me he’s stayed at his girlfriends in the past while we’ve been away he’s spent much time with her at our house anyway

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everythingisginger · 26/04/2018 18:09

You can't control whether or not she's on the pill. Surely your DS is using condoms?

Highhorse1981 · 26/04/2018 18:12

Op why are you pissed st the girl not bring in contraception?

Your son. Condoms

As for the situation you post about, give him credit for asking you

validusername1 · 26/04/2018 18:24

Don't see the issue to be honest but clearly your problem is that you don't like the girlfriend.
You want to be grateful he's even asked and not just invited her anyway.
You have absolutely no place to tell your son to get his girlfriend to the doctors for contraception, just make sure he's using condoms.

wannabestressfree · 26/04/2018 18:35

She is the person he has chosen to be with. I have three sons and I haven't always approved of all the partners but I respect it's their choice. He asked (respectful) so put down some ground rules.... tidiness etc.

The contraception issue should be down to your son not you.

Why the repetition of 'lodge'? Do you mean you have a holiday home? She must be fairly involved with the family if your taking her away?

CognitiveDissonance · 26/04/2018 19:21

If you approved of his girlfriend, your standpoint would be different.

saltandvinegarcrisps1 · 26/04/2018 21:57

This is hardly a teen sleepover- I was expecting this to be about a mixed sex sleepover of 15 year olds!!! He's an adult man in a fairly long term relationship. I'm astonished that this is an issue. We are going away for a week and I've said to my DD (nearly 18) her BF is welcome to stay with her.

Nb65988 · 26/05/2018 16:24

I've warmed my son about girls like that and that's not what he wants in a gf

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