Masturbation

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Have become aware in recent weeks ds 14 has discovered this - obv v normal and all that. There have been a couple of near misses where I have knocked and then entered his bedroom in the afternoon and it has obv been awkward but nothing really said.

Should I just put up with this or have a convo where I just say its not particularly pleasant to do it as soon as you get in from school when your mum might come in and that's what bedtimes and showers are for??

I can't work out what to do for the best - I don't want him to think its dirty but I don't want to feel like im running the gauntlet every time I want to talk to him or stick some washing on!

What does everyone else do?

Surely he usually knows roughly when dinner will be? If not, make sure he does.

I ring a bell to tell mine.

I text mine or get very tall dh to knock on the ceiling! I've not been in their rooms for years.

Another idea: a smart light bulb connected to an app on your phone. Then flash it on and off when you want him to come downstairs.

when you was younger you probably masturbated- and to be honest i would be mortified if someone tried talking to me about it. hes a young boy- boys this age will forever be like this.. i think you could do with saying i will text you when dinners ready, maybe knocking before entering his room. wouldent you rather be doing this then exploring going further then a girl at this age like most lads do.. ( not that theres anything wrong with that) hes entilited to his own privacy.

You’ll give him a complex. Just knock loudly and wait longer / shout can I come in

Leave him to it!! Always knock and wait for answer. I walked in on naked dS once (getting dressed) and that was enough for me! Put tissues in there and option of changing his own bed.

Knock his door, count to 3, then open.

Why is it 'unpleasant' that he is masturbating? I'd not use that phrase.

What's the problem with microwaving his own tea?
My 14 year old rarely hears me when I call him, I do the knock and wait thing.
If he doesn't get his tea at the same time as everyone else is it really a big deal?
I've taken to just texting his phone when I want to speak to him rather than going in his room, I don't go in there at all these days if I can help it.

To be honest, from what my husband said at this age he was doing it all the time, so would have been during shower and bedtime as well.

Just knock and wait as you would expect him to do with you. If he was on his phone I would just text him to say his dinner is ready rather than walking upstairs anyway.

As for washing, at this age he should be bringing it down and putting it away anyway.

I call my DS now. Whether he’s got headphones in or having a wank, he knows to answer or I’ll be up.

My other DS showers a dozen times a day 🙄

Leave a box of tissues by his bed. And it’s time for him to change his own sheets.

Knock his door, count to 3, then open.

Or wait for him to say it's okay to enter? Why count to three if you're just going to barge in anyway?

Text- don't knock!! His phone won't be out his hand long (the other hand! )

Never knock and enter. As soon as they are old enough to close their door they are old enough for you to wait to be invited in.

He needs his privacy, knock and wait! Bang the door if you need to. FFS. He'll soon work out when's good or not...

Omg how embarrassing i think it's time that his bedroom was off limits to everyone and he can put his own washing away and don't speak to him and tell him when the right time is