I'm sure many of you have been in this situation, so I am looking to you for advice. My son is 18 next week, he doesn't see his dad, I have brought him up mainly on my own. He is a rebel and does things he shouldn't, but has managed to avoid ever bringing trouble to the door. My main issue at the moment is his sheer laziness, he doesn't contribute anything to the house at all and sees it all as my job as mum. I work more hours than him and he leaves such a mess everywhere, but won't clean it up. He never washes dishes or empties bins or anything. He doesn't pay rent as he is paying me back a debt he owes (very slowly). I get really wound up when the kitchen is a mess and he just laughs, I leave it for as long as I can and normally end up doing it. So, my question is...
a) Do I just give in and do all the cleaning and tidying and stop nagging him (I would have more work but probably more peace, but I would be teaching him a bad lesson) ... or
b) carry on as I have been doing - losing my shit when I come home and see the mess he's left . Live like that for a couple of days, while nagging, shouting and general falling out, then mostly end up doing it myself anyway as I can't stand it