Anyone else feel like they hardly see their teens?

[mumprobs]

I'm not one of them parents who expect their teenagers to cuddle them every night and spend all of their time with them but I feel like I barely see mine! My DS19 is away at university so of course I don't see him much however I text him everyday and I maybe get a reply in 3-5 working days! He has been home for the last 2 weeks so seeing him more than I usually do but for the last 2 weeks he's been emerging from his room at 11, going the gym then going out with his friends, he's at the drinking age so sometimes he'll be home early hours. Same for DD17. She's still in sixth form so I see her everyday but I feel like she's either out with her friends, in her room, at the gym or work! Me, DH, DS and DD went out for dinner tonight and watched a movie when we got home and it made me realise I miss times like this so much! Are all of your teens like this? And what age do they realise they need to stop trying to cut you off?! Hahah

They are becoming independent, you knew this day would come, your son clearly does nt like daily texts so stop sending them, it’s time for you to develop interests outside of your family.

It’s hard though Northern. When you’ve been a close unit and it starts to be like this. It is sad. I find it tough.
I think you have to hold on to them still wanting to go out for meals and try and touch base a little bit each day if you can.

I have teens as well and I would much rather they were out having busy interesting lives and meeting people than have them stuck at home. The fact that they are means you have done a good job, they feel secure and confident enough to spread their wings now. I will also find it v hard in the Uni years to come (especially as my DH works away a lot) but you need to try and find you again and focus on your life beyond being a full time mum, I do realise that is easier said than done

I tend to find the closer you try to be, the further they’ll push. Texting a young man at uni every single day, will be way too much (in his eyes). Give him chance to miss you

Yes

Thank you all for the replies! It is hard indeed. I know, I understand I need to stop messaging him everyday but I just worry sometimes!

I never thought I would miss my DS as much as I do.

He's 18 and living with his dad as it makes it easier for him to get to work (he's just coming to the end of his apprenticeship). I see him most weekends as his friends live near my house but he often stays at his mates so he just calls in (for snacks and £20!)

I'm hoping once he passes his driving test I might see more of him.

I still have DS15 at home with his constant stream of friends!