My 18 yo daughter went off to Uni last September but after 6 weeks was back, and back in her job in a restaurant.
We tried to talk to her when she came back as for the last year before she left, she was rude, aggressive and impossible to live with. So we said, look that's fine, we'd love to have you, but you do need to grow up a bit, be civil, muck out your room now and again.
So she agreed, but never really kept her promises. Before too long she was being rude and just blanking us again, and at Easter she moved out to share a house in town with a guy she says is just a friend.
She's really cut us out, and I'm absolutely gutted. We've always done everything we can to encourage her to succeed in what ever she wants to do.
They did have quite a sheltered upbringing, I suppose we are quite conservative with a small c, but she has an older sister who has turned out just fine so it can't be all our fault?
She has never admitted to a boyfriend to us, but then she tells us nothing and I'm pretty sure she lies to us a lot.
We'd never even met the guy she moved in with, and I think she was pretty much trying to avoid us doing so, but we did accidentally run into him (we'd been invited to drop round, but her sister got there first, and when 'he' was still in the house she freaked and kept saying 'I thought you were going out, when are you going out?')
I'm just so heartbroken that she's chosen to do this like this. We're holding on by the skin of our teeth to keep channels of communication open. She is constantly rude and hurtful. I'm guessing there's not much else I can do, but feel a bit better for offloading.
Any ideas other than wait patiently? { very weak smile }