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lack of personality?

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wojack · 07/04/2018 19:38

Hello all, long time lurker first time poster.

I have some worries about my youngest. I am the mother of two sons, my youngest is 18.

His personality has altered significantly the last few years. In his mid teens he had a large and varied pool of interests. He played video games, watched Japanese animated cartoons, followed politics, played tabletop games and contributed to many internet forums. He did OK in school and used to write little stories about his day which he shared on the internet.

In the last year though he has totally changed. He developed a crush on a girl called Stacie, who apparently was seeing a boy called Chad (names changed). To compete with him, he started lifting weights, following sports like football, becoming obsessed with parties and girls.

His older brother (also like how he used to be) has spoken to him at length but my youngest dismissed it, saying he lived an anonymous life before and he wanted to become normal or as he termed it, a 'normie'.

Is such a rapid change in personality normal? It has taken us by surprise and me and DH are worried something else may be up.

Thanks, Diane

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FissionChips · 07/04/2018 19:48

So he started fancying girls and decided to buff up a bit?
Completely normal.

traumwerk · 07/04/2018 19:58

I think this is a phase a lot of older boys and girls go through in order to try to fit the 'normie' mold. He will come out the other side of it as he gets older, the hormones level out a bit and becomes more comfortable in his own skin. I think you just need to roll with it - easier said than done, I know.

BigSandyBalls2015 · 08/04/2018 09:30
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giveitfive · 08/04/2018 09:39

One of mine even randomly started washing (completely unprompted).... he would emerge from the bathroom in a cloud of lynx....

Suddenly Yugioh cards were a load of shit that only losers were interested in (they had been his life)...

Stopped playing with Lego.

Became secretive....

After a while he came out the other side. Demanded a box of Lego for Christmas (for old times sakes), fondly reminisced when we found an old Yugioh card down the back of some furniture... chats amiably with us all the time...

I think it's totally normal. He will work himself out. Fortunately he has kept up the washing. That's a huge relief. As a young teen he was quite the stinker...

Underworld345 · 08/04/2018 09:39

My DS is way off being 18, but based on what you’ve said, I wouldn’t be too worried.

Once he leaves school/college, he’ll come into his own and his true personality and interests will come out again. He’ll care less as he gets older and just be happy with his true self hopefully!

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