Hello, Thank you for this forum and hopefully, I can get some advice. On Saturday, prior to my family going away Easter Sunday celebrations, my 16-year-old son hurt his little sister, (such that I had to take her to the A & E, thankfully she was seen to and where told to keep her on painkillers, she will be okay.)
When he hurt his sister I was not at home, his mother confronted him, (he had lied, placing the blame on his younger sibling) rather than apologise and take responsibility, he verbally challenged his mother. Totally out of character as he has been brought up better. He then got his coat and walk out when his mother was upstairs telling his siblings he is never coming back.
I tried calling him and texting, he ignored all attempts of which I later discovered that why his phone was still on, was that he had asked (strangers to us) a boy he used to play rugby with to come and fetch him. When I was at the A & E after sending him a message saying that with the nature of the injury, when the sister explained to the doctors, there was a likelihood of social services being called and in turn police and I would have to tell the truth that he has run away and that only puts him as guilty, that's when he responded saying he was ok and at so and so house. Long story short, I managed to get the address of where he was by saying that I would bring him a change of clothes, I asked for the number of the boy's parents and only then did they get in touch with me.
when I went round there later, he refused to come down and talk to me, eventually upon the insistence of the mother, he came downstairs and pretty much did not say anything, I told the friends mother that as he was feeling the way he was, I would talk to him the following day when he was much settled. During this time the mother had said she was happy with him being there for a couple of days.
So when I left the house, our agreement as parents was that we would try talking the following day upon our return from the church event which was out of town. When I got back as agreed the previous day, I would call and go over. when I called the first thing she said was have Police been to your house? When I explained that we had just arrived and wanted to come over she said not today, I have had to call a few people because your son has said he does not feel safe coming home.
I have had to notify police about what has gone on.
I truly do not know how o further proceed or approach this and evidently, he is saying anything to paint a bad picture of us and he being the victim.
Do not know if anyone has been in any such situations.