DS is 13 in year 9. A very young 13 at that. He left primary with a bug group of friends but has struggled since starting at Grammar. I feel like he’s being left behind socially. He’s still small and skinny whereas many of his peers now look like men almost 
. I hear seemingly endless tales of parties from other mums and I think DS has been invited to 2 in the whole of years 7-9. He used to go to the joint discos with the girls school but those stop in year 9. Left to his own devices, he’d play Xbox and be with me, DH and dd. Never instigates meeting people in town for example. He plays lots of sport and we are always happy to ferry him wherever. When he does get invited to things, he’s delighted. I know he’s afraid of asking people to meet up in case they say no so he finds it easier no to ask in the first place to avoid potential rejection 
. I feel like, although he’s lovely, friendly, funny, he appears too “young” to some of his peers now. Tell me what your year 9s are like - surely they’re not all alpha males, on a permanent party??