Inviting 15yo gf on holiday

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Hi all, my son has a fabulous girlfriend, both 15. She spends a lot of time at my house and I am very very fond of her. We want to take a short break to a part of the UK that I know she loves and is very familiar with and so I want to ask her parents if she would like to join us. Will be 3 bedroom Airbnb so separate bedrooms of course. If they asked my son I wouldn’t hesitate in agreeing but I don’t want to appear unaware by just asking them, if it’s not an acceptable thing to do at 15. I’ve only met the parents briefly but do have text contact with the mum to confirm getting home arrangements sometimes. I am sure the young woman herself would love to come but I’ll approach her parents first, if the consensus is this would be acceptable. She has 2 older brothers who my lad gets on great with and he’s been very welcomed in their home. Thanks!

What’s the question? You don’t want to appear unaware of what?
Are you asking if you should invite her? Yes, that would be lovely all round.

Yes this is a lovely idea. Not unusual if that is what you are worrying about. If your son and this young lady stay together then she will be a big part of your family. It’s nice to include as such from get go. X

I would definitely raise with her parents before telling either child. Gives them a chance to consider it without any drama.

Sounds like a lovely idea.

Sorry, yes my question was whether it was ok to ask - I didn’t want to appear unaware of the inappropriateness of asking, if indeed it is. Which from your kind answers it’s not! I’m a relatively liberal mum so just needed a sense check. I’ll proceed! Thank you for your answers.

I wouldn't be happy personally as I feel that it would be
a) upping the seriousness of the relationship
b) encouraging sex (underage)
However I accept that I might have a minority viewpoint.

That sounds kind and thoughtful of you OP and I dont see any harm in asking! As she is only 15 though I would stress to her other parents that she will have her own room.

I wouldn’t allow my 15 year old daughter to go - it’s too much too young.

I wouldn't allow my daughter to go. Best to ask the parents first before mentioning it to them

Also 4 months is a long time in a teen relationship.

Sorry I assumed the break was going to be in summer

allthebest yes it will be a summer break. Being loves young dream they are already planning their prom outfits - 12m away! If she does come and they split before then , then purely ecomonically nothing lost. Thanks for all feedback, all views respected. I will approach the parents and if they are reluctant for her to join us, I won’t be offended!

I did something similar at 16, I think it's lovely that you'd like to! Definitely talk to the parents first but hopefully they'll allow as this sounds really nice

I would be ok with this (if they are going to DTD they will find a way holiday or not and separate rooms is not encouraging it). But agree 4 months is s long time in teendom and they might not still be together.

I wen't on a few similar trips with my then boyfriend at that age! Very innocent but lovely as got on so well with the family. Yes we broke up and went our separate ways after school ended but still lovely lovely memories!
Much better than being with someone whos family is a bit cold and off with them - its nice to be included

It sounds lovely. As long as you reassure the parents that they will have separate rooms and be chaperoned as far as possible.
I remember when my DS was that age and his GF stayed over occasionally (we live very rurally so it was sometimes easier). They had separate rooms and I did feel very responsible for the girl while she was here.
You should still be prepared for them to say no though, so I wouldn't mention it to the youngsters yet.

Thanks for all comments. My son’s gf is an absolute sweetheart and we enjoy her spending time with us, such lovely company so think we’d all enjoy the trip. Fingers crossed her parents will be amenable!