Hi, I don't know where to turn or who to talk to. My Son is in a serious relationship, has been for over a year now. Over Christmas he got engaged. I'm not overly happy about it but that's the least of my concern.
Over the time he's been with this girl, he's lost his friends, he doesn't go out with the lads and he seems to spend all his time with her. He's become secretive and angry. We used to very close and he used to talk to me about everything now he won't talk much at all. He's not into sports like he used to be.
We are from Ireland but he's talking about going to Manchester with this girl, all the plans and goals that he had seem to be gone. He knows I'm not not comfortable with him staying over night with her, so sometimes he just goes and doesn't come back. If I ring him, he starts a fight.
I thought I might just be holding on too tight and over reacting, trying to keep him my little boy as he's my only child but then the school called me.
He'd been very rude to a teacher. (Not like him.) She was ringing because she was concern about him too, she didn't offer much advice though, I think she just wanted to make me aware.
I feel like I'm walking on a tightrope. I don't want to push him away from me because I want to come to me if he's in trouble but I feel like this girl is pushing him into things he's not ready for. They got matching tatoos, which he hasn't told me about. Even though we used to talk about him getting Tatoos when he was younger. He knows I don't care.
I know he's 18 now, but he's still in school and he's a young 18. This is his first girlfriend.
Does anyone have any advice on how I can talk to him about this without him thinking I'm being mean.
Her parents are happy about the whole thing by the way. I tried to talk to them about it.
If you read all that, thanks.