Posting for a friend (I'll call her E) who is in work so bear with me..
Her daughter B is 18, has ASD and a history of self harm, low self esteem and minor drug use. (This was a very recent discovery). Hugely intelligent attractive girl, sadly easily led, and deeply hurt by dad walking out 2 years ago to be with a new piece of fluff and effectively cutting B out of his life.
B has a boyfriend called D. Been together since November. He is 34, has 4 kids between 15 and 9 months - 3 different mums. Currently sofa surfing.
B is stubborn. E didn't appreciate D hanging around the house at all hours, (and helping himself to things,) so B packed up and moved out to be with D. She's now sofa surfing with him. They both have p/t jobs but sadly no real prospects where they are.
They got engaged on valentines day and immediately announced their love on Facebook and Instagram, along with their plans for a few 'little ones' of their own.
B called E today to catch up and casually dropped into the conversation something about an order. Turns out D has a non-molestation order from his ex regarding domestic violence.
E is naturally worried sick, wants B to come home but B refuses to leave D. B says she's in love, she wants to spend the rest of her life with him, usual stuff. I've met D personally - he's not the sharpest knife in the set but he's basically treating her like a goddess - "you're so beautiful, I'm so lucky, can't bear to share you with the world" kind of stuff.
If anyone has any advice or suggestions - E is reading replies but is in work and can't post.
Sorry for the essay - Thought it best not to drip feed but to be as concise as possible. Let me know if anything needs to be clarified?