15 year old daughter won't talk about her period

[Annmarie33]

My daughter first started her period when she was about 12 but I have recently noticed that she has not been using any of the sanitary products for months now I have tried many times to speak to her about this but she says I'm disgusting and to stop talking about it I'm worried that her period has somewhat stopped or there is a problem I know she is not sexually active before anyone says she might be pregnant that would be impossible as she is very quiet and reserved and does not socialise or go out she goes to school and that's it she spends all her time with me in the house I'm not sure what to do about this as she just won't speak to me about it at all says I'm disgusting and rude.

Is she using anything? I have a dd with asd and periods was a very difficult thing for her. At first she used nothing but would put on several pairs of knickers and dark leggings. Eventually she used pads and tampons.

I remember when I first started (around 12 I think too) I was super embarrassed about periods and never really wanted to talk about them... she might just be really embarrassed about it.

@CedricDiggoryis correct that it is also completely normal, as a teen, not to have a period for a long time. It's all hormones settling down at that age.

Sorry about the typos!! Why no edit button, MN?

I had PCOS so went months without periods. My mother never asked about it.

Has she lost weight or been under a lot of stress recently?

I never used the pads my mother left me (or pads at all as a teen, only tampons), I found her disturbingly interested/intrusive about my periods and didn't like her "tracking" them via my sanitary product use so I procured tampons and kept my stash hidden and flushed them (yes bad I know I don't do it now)

& FWIW a lot of my friends had quite a gap (years) between having their first period, and starting REGULAR periods

Has she lost weight/grown taller without getting heavier? That’s a common cause of period loss

"Also if you provide a bin, she will probably put the wrappers/towels in there and you'll know that she's having her period.tracking

It disgusted me/disturbed me that my mother had her nose in the bathroom bins wanting to know about my periods.

That's why I flushed and disposed of wrappers elsewhere.

I had no problem using the bathroom bin in my nan or aunts house where they weren't so intrusive as to keep tabs on what was going in there!

I have a cousin who was a lot like that in high school. She had a baby the week she turned 17.

I'm super close to my mum but never talked about periods. She was open about everything but I just hid my stash of sanitary products. I still hate talking about periods unless it's needed with a GP...just a personal thing.

Im going shopping this evening so I will buy some tampons and wait to see if she uses them worth a try
I wouldn't use them if someone was keeping tabs to see how many I used!

So intrusive

She hasn't actually done anything unusual or concerning, back off!

P.s. if I couldn't procure tampons I layered up big roll.
I felt violated by the idea of the bathroom bin police so anything was better than using her (inventried) supply she left for me (in the bathroom where she could / did regularly check to see if i had taken any)

Made me feel like wildlife with a trail of food left out so that I would get caught on camera!

BOG roll

For the posters mentioning the 'bathroom bin police' (😂), the OP will surely be emptying all the bins in the house regularly. My advice was to buy pads and tampons for her DD and leave them in her bedroom or bathroom. When the OP empties the bins, she can have piece of mind that her daughter is having her periods if there is rubbish in the bin. It's not policing. It's supplying sanitary wear and merely noticing if there's rubbish. This way would mean that the OP's DD who is embarrassed about periods wouldn't have to talk about them if she didn't want to.

the OP will surely be emptying all the bins in the house regularly

You can empty bathroom bins without paying much attention to the contents.

The OP IS keeping tabs on her daughters San pro use, and that it intrusive and may be making her daughter uncomfortable

The OP will notice the contens unless she's doing it with her eyes shut.

Her original post does not suggest she is keeping tabs, but being a concerned mother.

OP stop asking her. Maybe she thinks you’re prying too much. Just tell her fin she’s worried she can come to you.

I hope you’re not counting products and asking specific detailed questions.

My periods were always irregular from the beginning and I turned out to have ovarian cysts so I'd suggest getting her to a gp to be safe

Think about her weight. If she's under weight that might explain it. You then have to figure out what the weight issue is about! Not always an eating disorders, but possible. My DD is significantly under weight due to a chronic health issue that causes pain, nausea, constipation and diarrhoea if she eats very much in any one sitting and she hasn't had a period for at least 6 months. She looks very slim, but I don't think most people would realise how underweight she is, so it's easy to miss!