Sorry this is a long one.
My DS 13 blames me for everything and is really really angry at me. Just me, not his stepdad (who we live with) or anyone else. When I ask him what he hates he just says "you, its just you". He says I am to blame for being bullied at school, because if I let him do what the other kids do, he wouldnt get bullied. I am used to the whole 'but everyone else does it' and like most parents we have rules he has to follow - he can't hang round in the park all night, he can't play unsuitable video games, etc.
But for the past few months he keeps having angry outbursts directly at me, saying that his whole life is awful and it's all my fault. I'm trying not to be hurt, thinking maybe its just hormones and having a rough time at school, but whatever I say , no matter what I say, he just gets more angry at me. I'm at the end of my tether with it, I cant take any more and dont know what to do.
I have literally gone through hell to protect him from his dad, and have gone through so much awful stuff in the past 14 years to protect him, none of which he knows about, but then that makes it worse when he tells me that I am the problem.
I try so hard to be a good mum, and it didnt come naturally to me, but now I just dont know what to do.