Dodgy layers equals utter drama

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Took Dd for a haircut yesterday, she’s not happy with the layers
To me and dh it looks really nice.
She’s totally ott dramatic
In her defence she’s just weaned off 20mg citalapram (sp) Down to 10mg for 28 days now to nothing for the last week
I feel like I did a year or more ago
Lost and worried and horrified that’s she’s so dramatic
We had a lovely evening, dh went to bed early, we watched a film.
Went to bed blah blah
She then appeared at my bedroom door hissing ‘mum. Muuuuum complain to the hairdressers tomorrow muuum’
I said omg sssh you’ve woken dad
Complete tantrum. Door slamming shouting storming downstairs
She even got the scissors and started snipping
This isn’t HER
this is her illness Back
I tried to reason with her. There is no reasoning

Ffs she’s 18 😞
At 18 I lived with my now dh. Had two jobs. Had a social life. Had a life!!!

She’s like a tantruming toddler

I’ve hidden the scissors
I’m in the spare room as dh is furious (was fast asleep and snoring when the show started)
She’s still sobbing in her room

It’s a ridiculous over reaction and this was what our life was 12/18 months ago

I’m not posting for people to pile in abd slag her off.
I’m venting
Her hairs fine
Her mental health has crashed. Again. 😢

Obviously this is s name change. Dd does know my posting name roughly

I feel like I spend my life pacifying her

I’m just so sad we’re back in shitsville

May be the reduction in the tablets was too quick. Can you get a gp appointment to see if that's the case. Is this a one off and she needs time to adjust.
May be how you answered her triggered her.
Did you just say to be quiet or / and say she looked fine.
This is an incorrect response. What that does is to tell her she's doing wrong and your trying to sort the problem.
If you'd got up and said ' I often hate my hair when I have it cut I totally understand how you feel. Let's look at it tomorrow. ' then say nothing else.
What you're doing is acknowledging her feelings. Normalising them. She doesn't want you to fix it.
If she continues to say you need to complain.
You say. You can pop back to them tomorrow for a chat about what you think is wrong. I'll drop you off.
You again are acknowledging her feelings. If she chooses to do that it not it's up to her.
If she demands you sort it.
Just say. No , I'll drop you off you chat to them as you understand the problem and I will get it wrong.
If you tell her it's fine she will say you're talking out your backside, patronising her etc and then big rows start.
Acknowledging their feelings and not trying to fix it really works. I did it and was shocked when there was no argument.

Oh wow thank you. Honestly that’s so helpful