Hi
My DD2 is in year 8. She has a few circles of friends and tends to be fairly easy going except usual teen hormonal episodes. A girl who is one of her closer friends is also my close friends daughter who she has known since they met at reception at school. As they have grown, the gulf between my relationship with my DD and her relationship with her DD is quite apparent. I can’t decide if this is normal but they are incredibly close, more like friends than mother and daughter and I’ve started to find it not only slightly intense and uncomfortable but sometimes not what I want my child exposed to.
Clothing is another issue. She buys incredibly sexualised clothing for her(she is 12) to wear. So it’s my friend buying these things for her and I don’t want to slut shame here, I just can’t fathom how some of the outfits are deemed acceptable for her DD. (Think very cropped tops, very short skirts, high heels and thigh high socks and even thigh high boots worn with mini skirts).
I would not allow my child to wear such grown up and inappropriate clothing but I take on board this may be the norm and I am being unreasonable here!
I’m just looking for advice on how to handle it, do I say to my daughter I don’t agree with the clothing, or do I say nothing at all, it’s hard to not even raise an eyebrow when she turns up with some of the outfits and her mum my friend always thinks she looks lovely.