Dd15 out of control

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Walked in on DD having sex . Needless to say I lost the plot threw him out. I have tried to speak to her about relationships love sex . Her behaviour has changed over the last few months and she has admitted smoking cannabis. Every time I try to speak with her she is defensive and her attitude is appalling towards me . I'm at my wits end. Any advice would be really helpful

OH dear, that sucks.

So, 1st things first. Is she on birth control? Does she know where the sexual health clinic is (thinking of STDs).

Who does she talk to, could she go to the family planning clinic with a decent friend?

Hi no she's not . We have spoke about std pregnancy etc before and I have taken her to clinic before for the pill at her request . I'll be taking her tomorrow again .Just can't seem to get through to her that she's making some bad choices at the moment

Maybe all we can do is get them to listen to our logic why we think it's a bad choice. Coz otherwise they have to figure out for themselves that they don't want bad choices.

What are her aspirations or plans for the future?

Is he her boyfriend, do you think she wanted to or felt pressured?
I went through similar with Dd, I won't lie, it was horrific but she's come through it and now has a lovely BF of 10 months.

We talked it through and she seems to realise why it was a bad choice. He's not her boyfriend just a good friend . I don't think she felt pressurised it all seemed planned . I'm hoping that by trying to talk things through we will get somewhere think I have a rocky road ahead !

You made great progress. Well done.
They say that teens that have hopes & aspirations, make better choices. They turn down bad choices that would screw up their dreams.

Also, they make better choices when they have good enough self-esteem that they don't think they deserve rubbish; they need to believe that they deserve good experiences & good quality relationships, in order to make good choices.

Make sense?
Keep the communication doors open.