What to do with her hair? It’s a mess!!

[Yasmine8]

My 15 year old daughter has has damaged hair for quite a while now! She had it ombred about 9 months ago and as you could see it ruined her hair!! After 2 months I finally persuaded her to get it chopped off as it was damaged beyond repair! She hasn’t had a haircut/trim since. So we went to the salon for a consultation today and the stylist said due to trying all the treatments available if she wants it healthy all over then the bleached parts have to go - short graduated bob. She did get emotional but I think she should just cut it, how do I persuade her?! The appointment is next week! Pictures are in the link
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It's her hair. She's 15. Let her choose.

Really it's her hair and it's up to her. Yes it's damaged but it's not doing her any harm. I love a bob but every teenager these days has long, long hair so it might seem very drastic to her.

I would have it cut to a lob (long bob) style length. Look through photos together online to see if there's any she likes- there's a lot of young celebs with this style. Then regular trims to get rid of the rest of the damage. This way she never has to go too short and will have the ombre look a bit still until it's all trimmed out. With curly hair though be aware it might get bigger and harder to manage the less weight it has so this needs to be taken into account and she will need a hair dresser good with curly hair. How about an offer of nice conditioner or new hair dryer or lunch out if she agrees to go to the hair dresser. It's her hair and she has to live with it so definitely go with listening to why she's upset and what her plan is before you give any advice or thoughts. Image and what your peers might think of how you look seems like the whole world at this age.

It's up to her. It will be healthier if she chops it but she has to make that decision. Curly hair is prone to being drier so if you bleach it, it will be drier still. If she wants it lightened in future get them to use a high lift colour, it will be so much kinder to her hair.
Also, if she doesn't want to cut it, get a deep conditioning treatment to leave on her hair for 10 mins or so, a couple of times a week. You don't need to spend much. I picked up a macadamia nut one from Lidl for £2 and it was fabulous.
(Speaking as a hairdresser and possessor of curly hair)

Ifyousee is correct about her hair looking bigger when it's shorter and making sure you get a hairdresser used to cutting curls. I haven't always had great cuts because the hairdresser wasn't used to dealing with my thick hair and your daughters look thicker than mine.

I wouldn't cut it much shorter, it's gonna bounce right up. Getting the right shape with hair that thick and curly will be hard, if not impossible without heat, which will cause more damage. I really can't envision a style much shorter than she has now which will look good with that hair type without it being blowdried and straightened.

Have you tried weekly coconut oil treatments to add moisture?

Soak the hair in coconut oil, leave it on overnight, the next morning add shampoo before wetting the hair otherwise you'll find it hard to remove all the oil. Rinse, repeat shampoo and condition.

Is her hair naturally curly? It looks that way from the pic. If so, is a long bob really workable or will it require lots of straightening/ blow drying/ styling? I would find a hairdresser who is good with curly hair and cling on to them forever

I agree that any shorter cut would need effort to look nice - even if hair is in better condition shorter it is only going to sit manageabley with either weight from being long or with some extra product and styling- either smoothing product and heat styling or control product and scrunching.

If you cut it above her shoulders it'll be horrendous to keep in any style - leave it to grow and then cut it

It's her hair what does she want?