DS going out with a girl - what should he do?

[mommybunny]

DS is 12, 13 in March. He goes to an all-boys school and went to a disco last weekend held by an all-girls school. He exchanged Instagram details with lots of girls and has "asked out" one of them. They have a plan to meet in the local market town for about an hour on Sunday afternoon. She has told DS that she "just wants to be friends" - he says he is cool with that.

DH is encouraging DS to take the girl to the local Creams for ice cream (and pick up the tab). I'd have been gaga myself at the prospect of a boy doing something like that for me, but I do wonder if it may come across as a little intense, particularly when she said she just wants to be friends (though I have caught sight of hearts going in both directions in their Instagram correspondence - which I emphasise he has shown me!). DS is happy with the idea himself, though is cautious about how much of his pocket money he will have to spend on it.

If your DCs around that age have "friends" like that, what do they do when they get together?

Bless. Creams is a great place for them to go for a first meeting - the desserts are a pretty good talking point as well, so I’d also point him in that direction.

Thanks Super, you wouldn’t say it’s too “obvious”, would you?

(I know I am probably way overthinking this, but HE’S MY DS!)

Alternatively you could suggest they go for a walk in the park, or a coffee

Creams is perfect. I think all of my dses had first 'dates' at that kind of age at Creams.

The date sounds perfect except that I wouldn't expect him to pay. I really don't feel comfortable with the old "man pays" assumption.
I have older boys and bills are always split whether with girls who are friends or girlfriends.

I think Creams sounds perfect - but split the bill. Makes it more like friends.

I think that that is a very sweet idea. If he's worried that she will take itvthe wrong way he can always say oh don't worry about it or you can buy next time. When I was that age that was how we paid when going out with friends (just friends not friends for now friends)