11 year old - Speech driving me mad

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Hi, Just trying to gauge what is usual.

I realise I am posting in teens but DD (age 11) is at secondary school so thought this was the best place.
Minor in the great scheme of things I know but dd's use of language (apart from a noticeable increase in swearing since starting secondary school), is driving me mad!
I'm not perfect myself but DD describes events along the lines of the following:
"Sarah's been on the phone and she is 'like' so lucky to be getting a new dog."
"She rang me up and told me and I 'went' yeah, I'd love one of those too and she went, well ask your mum."
Obviously these are fictitious conversations but each event that dd relays is absolutely full of 'likes' and people 'went' and not said things and this drives me utterly mad. It is lovely that dd talks about her day etc. and I realise this is no mean feat for a pre-teen but I find myself constantly trying to correct her. I read and write a lot and I refer to this type of speaking as slang, though I have heard grown adults speak like this and on television too. DH says most children speak like this nowadays so perhaps I am just behind the times but in my opinion it does not come across well and dd sometimes sounds as if she is gabbling and the likes are perhaps a type of hesitancy. Whichever way, I seem unable to break the cycle. DD is an intelligent girl and attends a very good grammar school and I can't quite understand why she chooses to speak like this - can anyone relate?

I work in a University and I have students that send emails typed like this.

"I was wondering if I could like come in and speak to you about an essay I am working on? Maybe on like Monday or Tuesday?"

Aaaargh!! :D

I remember talking like that when I was around that age.

I also remember thinking I should try to talk properly but also wondered what I should replace ‘like’ with.

At least she can speak in SE if she wants. My dc are under 10 and have picked up 'f' instead of 'th' and ' I done' 'i seen' 'i writ'. I'm a fucking eng teacher- how has this happened?

We live nowhere near the south, but it's increasingly common round here. Suppose I can't really talk, I don't pronounce the term I also 'g' on words like 'walking'. Can't bring myself to do it even when I should cos it sounds to affected to my ear.

In fact, I may well still do it a little! I subconsciously speak differently in different situations though.

I think it's about being part of their peer group and it's prevalent on social media. Mine (12 and 16) are keen on vloggers who speak like this.

I find they can vary the style depending on mood /who they've been with recently. Sometimes I get some very "street" language and get called "man" or "bruv" - it's a deliberate choice and I do mildly remonstrate! With the 16 year old there's a huge tendency to use slang that until recently was unknown to me like "peng" . I think it's about trying to fit in at college. Mine are both articulate and conventionally polite when need be. I ignore it mostly though sometimes correct major grammatical errors -my 12 year old seems to be unable to distinguish between the use of 'for' and 'from' - but maybe she's only pretending?!

Teacher here, I often ask a question, get an answer and then say, "well you are almost right, it isn't like that, it is that'.

Arrgh! DD is like this. I think PPs are right and I need to soft pedal the criticism She uses a local dialect word, fair dos. But she's not using it correctly! It makes my teeth itch. I just need to shut up about it, don't I?

I know adults who say 'like' and 'went'. Also 'I turned round and said, then she turned round & said'.

The worst one is 'because X' with nothing in between. 'I was late for work because strike'.

As others have said it’s just the way some young people talk and wouldn’t bother me too much. The swearing however would bother me and I wouldn’t allow them to swear in my presence.

I like this TED talk: 3 ways to speak English

My dsd is all ‘likes’ but her favourite is ‘literally’ and she uses it with everything. But she’s a kid and it how the kids talk.

When I was a teenager I affected a Liverpool accent for about 6 months. I live about 200 miles from Liverpool. My parents ignored it and it passed. My more sensible friends took the piss, which also encouraged me to get over it.

I hear teens on the bus ("and like I went like and he like goes like, and I goes like whatevva!)". I don't hear many adults though.

If only I could somehow persuade my 60 year old brother that every second word really doesn't need to be 'fuck'.

If only I could somehow persuade my 60 year old brother that every second word really doesn't need to be 'fuck'.

Haha, I had a colleague like that (in his late 30s). It was quite unbelievable the frequency with which he used the word... I think someone senior might have said something eventually, though, as he did stop doing it

My DSs do it too, I just laugh and dramatically roll my eyes at them - as I'm sure my DPs did to me in the 90s. I'm sure it was "right" instead of "like" though, could be wrong though