Sexual harassment?

[diodati]

My dd, who's 17, broke up with her (first) boyfriend last Friday. I liked him very much and was sorry that she felt it was time to end the relationship. Her reasons for doing so were solid. Anyway, he came by the house with some flowers for her, hoping to convince her to change her mind but when she didn't, he was very angry. He blamed her for her unhappiness in the relationship; accepting none of the blame himself. I was in my room so I heard him slam the door on his way out.

Since then, he's been telling mutual friends how terrible she is, which I guess is par for the course since he's obviously immature (he's 18). But now, he's making comments about her body, specifically her "lady garden" and how it hasn't been "tended". Not that he would know, as DD is still a virgin but that's beside the point.

How do I react? Do I call him and tell him to shut his fucking filthy mouth? I wish I could.

At 17 I doubt she would thank you for getting involved. She would probably like a shoulder to cry on and you helping her take her mind off it.

I am surprised at 17 that physical things didn't happen, but that doesn't matter.

She's begged me to not say anything. I feel so angry that the little shit, who seemed like such a "nice boy", is behaving like a pig.

She's a late-bloomer sexually. Most of her friends are the same. Just as well!

I think you should say something to him or to his mom, if you are friendly with her. You want to cut this behavior short. I would be worried that he could escalate into posting racy photos of dd on social media. If you do talk to him or his mom, try not to sound angry or blame the boy. You need them on your side.

I just went through DD's breakup (both 16yo). I loved the ex also. He also got angry and posted inappropriate comments on social media. Even though, according to dd, he was the one who wanted to break up. I think teen boys tend to get angry and girls tend to get depressed at the end of a relationship.

She's 17 not 12........ Leave it be.

Well the other girls will realize he's an area and won't touch him with a barge pole

Decent people don't listen to such crap spouted by exs ... ignore him

I am surprised an 18 year old would use the words 'lady garden' TBH.

He's being an arse - ruining his own reputation- I'd say she's made a lucky escape. You need to stay out of it though.

lol! "Lady Garden" is an MN term from way back. DD spoke of her "pubic hair" - quite right, too.

Having calmed down a little since last week, I'm glad I didn't go round to his home. As someone said, she's 17, not 12. But still, it's a disgusting way to behave.