17yr old DS and first 'party'

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DS has just turned 17 and is going to a party on the weekend. He asked if it was ok to go and whether it would be ok to take 4 cans of cider. He drinks very, very little so I did think 4 cans was a bit much but he said he'd be ridiculed if he took any less.

He's not sure he'll be coming home and says he will probably crash at the house hes going to.

I'm uneasy about he whole thing but also realise he has to be given freedom at this age.

How do I handle this? Let him go and just do what he likes? Insist he comes home? Colleague in work has said make sure I buy him condoms!

Any advice? How bothered should I be?

Leave him to it,he ll be fine.i do nt see the need to buy him condoms, he can buy his own

Christ leave him to it! At least you won't have to deal with the inevitable vomit and hangover

My kids are still very young, so no real experience but I have a couple of suggestions.

Let him take 4 cans with agreement he'll drink x and share the rest. Also I read about a safe word for teenagers incase he wants help/isn't comfortable which I thought was a great idea -
metro.co.uk/2017/03/01/this-dads-x-plan-is-a-genius-way-of-keeping-teenagers-safe-6480639/
Maybe talk to him about the sort of things that might happen and how he would react, that he can tell you about them and you won't judge him etc.

Good luck!

Thanks, the safe text is an excellent suggestion. He'll roll his eyes no doubt but at least he knows its there if he needs it.

I'll just let him get on with it then!

If you're unhappy about 4 cans - how about 4 bottles. They tend to be smaller and 4 is still decent amount to take. Tell him once a can/bottle has been opened to keep hold of it to ensure no-one can spike it. If he's being sensible he'll alternate cans with water. Empty cans can be filled with water (maybe when he goes to the loo?) so it won't be obvious he's drinking water. Safe word/phrase if he phones. Text you around midnight if he's staying over.