DCs and household chores

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Not sure this is the right thread. My cleaner is likely to stop as she has found another job. I can't be arsed to find another one and frankly could do with the money, the hourly rate is now £12/h where we live apparently. I have 3 children aged 13, 12 and 9
and a husband willing to help a bit. I work full time and I am already stretched. At five of us it should take one hour to clean the house. Am I been silly to think we could do it? How do I motivate them to help? They are typical kids on their phones all
the time watching stupid things on Youtube. I am thinking of cancelling WiFi but that's another thread. Thanks for any piece of advice!

Maybe suggest you hold onto all the phones for an hour, put on some great music, everyone pitches in then you all have an ice cream at the end. Word of warning the slacking off is frequent and needs to be managed - we often let the harder worker escape first if this happens.

Your h is willing to help a bit? Bully for him.

You need to make everyone in the house pull their weight. Explain what it takes to run a house and that it isn't possible or a good idea for one person to do everything. If they don't start doing stuff, t helping, then X happens.

I'd be more inclined to share out the jobs, so all 5 of you know what your responsibility is each week, and have to get it done at some point. Someone might prefer to let it build and do an hour's blast once a week, someone else might prefer to do 10mins a day. Someone might like cooking and someone else hate it. Someone might not mind putting the bins out and someone else might hate it, etc. Doesn't matter who does what if it is all done and everyone pulls their weight.

Don't understand the phrase a husband willing to help a bit and I work full time being in the same sentence.

Well husband is willing to help a bit means exactly that, he already does all the washing up and will now mop the kitchen and bathroom floors. I work full time so doing all the cleaning myself is not a viable option. We have agreed to distribute the tasks, one child will tidy up and dust, one will Hoover and the third one will clean the bathroom and I will clean the kitchen. Hubby will continue the bins and I will continue the laundry. That's the theory anyway and they seem to agree in principle that it is fair that they help.

And we will all change our beds

If you're working full time then your husband should be helping more than "a bit".

It's just me and dd13. She knows she has to help with cleaning once a week she hoovers house whilst I dust and do windows. She cleans bathroom I do kitchen. She strips beds and puts in machine whilst I remake them she puts her own washing on but I will hang it out and iron it. 3 bed semi takes couple of hours max to get everything done. We are tidy though so it is just a case of cleaning. She enjoys doing it ( strange teenager) and will quite happily do a mini clean mid week without been asked

Oh and if she doesn't help no allowance or phone bill paid

Yes, I think pocket money will have to be conditional to job done