I honestly don't know what to do with my 17 year old son.
He is, at heart, basically a nice lad who if you met would think he was polite and pleasant but this last year his attitude in side the house has changed.
At the moment we are basically at a stale mate. He is incredibly lazy, has failed all his exams and his attitude is awful . I sway between thinking ive been too soft with him to thinking I have been too strict.
He has a college place to begin for later this month but he has done nothing in preparation. He is meant to have ordered kit, found out his time table etc but he hasn't. His attitude to me and his step dad are awful too. He does nothing he is asked, sneaks out past curfew, 'borrowed' money from my bank without asking and his room literally stinks. He has some lovely friends but they consume every second of his time/thoughts. I am fairly relaxed parent and he has his friends over, can go to parties etc.
He has given no regards to getting a job or working towards his future. Last time I tried to ground him he basically left home and went couch surfing. He gets over £100 a month in pocket money from various family members but still he spends every penny and has now basically stolen from me. I cant seem to get him to do anything and feel like he has lost all respect for me and my home. Ive cancelled his phone contract and told him to forget the driving lessons he was going to get but still he doesnt seem to care.
How can i regain some control?