Apologies... this is going to be a lengthy post. I don't know who to turn to, who to talk to, or what to do for the best.
I have one son who is 14, I've always thought there was something different about him, but people disagreed. He was always top in subjects at school. He has a great sense of humour and seemed to have plenty of friends. His dad and I separated when he was 6, on the whole we have an amicable relationship, he met someone a couple of years ago online and has since moved abroad. My son was very close to my mum, she died of cancer last year. 11 years of his life had been spent basically helping me to care for her.
So this year we relocated, he hasn't been to school since October last year. Always some illness or anxiety that gets concocted.so much so I took him to the Dr. The Dr seemed to think it was a phase... in the end I contacted education and some other people to try and get some support. It's crap. I feel like I'm wallowing in quick sand. Slowly having the life suffocated out of me.
He's lazy, dirty, has no pride in himself at all, refuses to wash or clean his teeth, won't change his clothes. He's cruel to our pets, he screams at me calling me a fat c* and much more. He throws himself on the floor and shouts help help she's attacking me, I'm nowhere near him. Trust me there are times I want to batter him. He has self harmed twice, cutting his arm, first time with a broken door handle, today with a blade on the chisel. He then had the chisel to my throat, pinning my arms down. I managed to get it off him, but this was after I got stabbed in the leg. He went in his room, five minutes later he walks out smiling like nothing has happened. Asks do I want a drink, did I sleep well and then says, what's wrong with you.
I rang the emergency social services number. She was a total bitch. She told me that at 14 his phone and what he does on it is his "choice". I said I was concerned as he sits laughing, typing, watching messed up YouTube videos, but he has no friends. I don't know who he is talking to, or what he is doing. According to her it's his right to do as he pleases. I told her he was violent and showed signs of abnormal behaviour - she said what you class as abnormal may be normal for him. Like wtf.... is he meant to kill me or injure me before anything happens. He guards his phone with his life!!
The first self harming was because I changed the router password. This was accompanied by shouting die c*t die and go kill yourself. Over and over. He also slams doors, throws things around etc.
Now apologies that this is so disjointed, I'm so upset, stressed. I suffer with ill health myself. We have always been close, but I feel I don't know him anymore.
When he sees a dr, support worker, teacher etc, he's incredibly charming. He's like a psychopath.
There is much much more... ny ideas? Thanks