Worried about teenage boy

[Lainey99]

My son is 14 and plays on Xbox a lot , he doesn't like to go to social gatherings be it school or family dos or partys , he's always been quite but seems happy in himself he has friends but does see many out side school , I suffer from social anxiety and hate large gatherings but grin and bare it I'm worried he may have social anxiety too we are at our happiest at home any advice would be great thanks

This seems to be the norm for 14 year old boys to be honest. I would probably insist on him coming to family events just to keep him from totally isolating himself and also insist on him joining the rest of the family for meals. I might suggest inviting a friend round but otherwise, it's the holidays, let him get on with it.

Sounds pretty normal to me😀

Mine is the same he spends hours on internet playing games with friends or on Xbox.
But he has to spend time with us too and come out on family outings now and again ( Not every time as I appreciate that he would be bored)) sometimes) and once he is actually out he enjoys himself. Yours might to if you set rules that he had to spend time with you and go out sometimes with you as a family even if it's something simple outdoors like a walk, out for coffee, visit to a nature/adventure place. Offer to have his friends over so they can play Xbox together?

My sons friends from school don't live where we do so online gaming is the way they keep in touch with occaisional visits organised.

My 14 year old is exactly the same, I get so worried as I think he should be out with friends but he never does! I also worry about anxiety, as he won't even go to the local shop!

my sons 13 hes not been to school for a while now bec he just wont make any friends talk to anybody walks about on his own wont go into any class where groups of kids are now he sits at home on ps3 all the time bec hes got friends on there who dont know him cant see him so hes fine with that wont go out of house at all he sits on that all night talking to telly makes excuses all time not to go to school feel sick

This sounds normal to some degree but I would encourage at least family gatherings eg even family mealtimes at home so that DCs are not always isolated, I don't think that is good for them. Even get them out of their room to do some household jobs. We can't force them to socialise outside family and school if they don't want to.

couldiseriouslybepregnant this is hopefully a passing phase of avoiding the shop, I remember not that long ago my DD 15 would not go to the kiosk when were at the cinema just to buy some sweets, even though she desperately wanted some!

MY DS needs to be pushed to socialise and spends most time on PS4 with friends. He used to be much more active socially but it’s def stopped off this year (year 9, age 13). When he goes out he’s fine. He and my dd (older) both have anxiety, which I think does have some bearing on it.