16 year old son curfew

[janeylou25]

What time is it acceptable for your 16 year old son to be out without letting you know he is going to be late home and is not answering his phone?

He is usually a responsible 16 year old and will tell me if he is going to be late. Not sure if I'm over reacting at 9.30 pm? It's not so much the time as the fact he isn't answering my text or phone call!

I have a big circle of friends and acquaintances and I don't know one family that would say a curfew at 16 wasn't necessary. 16 is not 18

I never had a curfew at all. Providing I was back by the time I said I would be and not a minute later. Would always let parents know out of courtesy. Plus I went away to college at 16 so no curfew there either

I think that depends on what you mean by 'curfew' Dame. This question is asked on MN a lot. Usually the vast majority of posters explain that it is more about knowing where the child is, and how they are getting home. There is no point in setting a 'curfew' of 10pm if they are at a show that doesn't finish until 10.15pm, and it would seem unreasonable to say they couldn't go to something they wanted because of an arbitrary 'curfew' time. OTOH, I wouldn't have mine just 'hanging bout' in the park or High Street or a random street corner, at a much earlier time.
Hence a lot of people will say it depends where they are / what they are doing rather than a fixed time.

I don't know one family that would say a curfew at 16 wasn't necessary. 16 is not 18

abso-frigging-lutely

Well I know for a fact none of them ever touched drugs, none of them ever broke the law, none of them smoke or vape and never have, three of the four old enough to drink are teatotal but as younger teens never came home drunk. We laugh because I have/had the most middle aged teenagers on earth as they were all so easy and very sensible and staid. I trusted them to do the right thing and they did. Do I think they lied? Probably, occasionally but not about their whereabouts or who they were with because there was no need.

Flesh I'm guessing that is because you have good communication between you all. As others have said above communication is the key regardless of what age you are, it's just mutual respect to keep the others that live in your home an idea of what your plans are.