14 yrs old and alcohol

[SaltySeaDog72]

So dd1 went to a party at a friend's house. I always make contact with the parent. Mum was in the house and said she was going out but that the dad was going to stay in the house. I didn't ask re alcohol because frankly I wouldn't expect there to be any - how naive of me

Two of dd's friends ended up vomiting due to alcohol. dd1 had a bit and was not drunk. Not even tipsy.

I feel annoyed that alcohol was permitted at a party age 14.

Am I right to feel this or am I being naive?

I don't agree that 14 year olds should drink alcohol, but then I am lucky that my teens have never been interested in alcohol or partying at all.

Another one here who would not let a 13/14 year old to a sleepover where the adults were pressing alcohol on the kids - ffs

From what I can remember through the fog of time those kids that had the stricter parents always seemed to be the ones that turned up with the alcohol and were the ones that got messy drunk very quickly and started spewing, anecdata so not sure if there's a correlation

YANBU but at the same time the fist time I got drunk and vomited was at 14 ... I didn't drink for 3 years

From what I can remember through the fog of time those kids that had the stricter parents always seemed to be the ones that turned up with the alcohol and were the ones that got messy drunk very quickly and started spewing, anecdata so not sure if there's a correlation

And I remember the opposite. The girls who turned up already drunk to go to a disco aged 14/15 were the ones whose parents weren't there to see them leave, who didn't notice their alcohol supplies were depleted, and who didn't pick their kids up from the disco so didn't see the state they were in.