I'm coming on here for a rant as much as anything, because I am at the end of my tether with my 15 year old DS. Some background.
He has always struggled at school-bright but lack of focus and issues with co-ordination (which OT helped with for a year when he was at primary school)
His behavior got worse during Summer last year and when he returned to school in year 10 it spiraled downwards. During the summer we saw hospital about pectus excavatum....which we think it part of the issue, as he was very upset about it.
We got confirmaton of ADHD in November last year when he was 14. Tried meds but did not help and made him feel awful so stopped them.
Behavior continued to worsen at school. At home-have had to call the police 3 times now for aggressive and violent behavior towards us. DD 10 years old is scared of him and suffering from anxiety as a result of his behavior (she is being supported at her primary school with therapy sessions) . Police excellent and we are on urgent response if we dial 999-which we have been told to if he threatens daughter or with a knife (again).
Admitted to smoking weed since Dec last year. Getting support for that from local charity-don't give him cash any more. he said he doesn;t want to stop as it makes him relax
now been expelled from school for continuous poor and disruptive behavior. Starts alternative provision Monday.
He went out and got pissed with mates last night. we were having a (once in a blue moon) dinner out with my parents and daughter locally. Got a call from a mate who had seen him messing around with his (hoody) mates and someone had called police. Managed to find him, got him home.
Today he has been told he is grounded until a week on Monday for his poor behavior. he went mad and punched my DH his Dad.
He refuses to take responsibility for his actions. Seeing CAMHS week after next and paying for psychology support to help him with anger and managing anxiety, which we feel this all stems from. if he feels anxious he gets angry.
My DH and I are at the end of our tether now. We are both good people who work hard to provide our kids with a loving and stable home. I hate how his behavior is having such a terrible impact on us all, especially on our DD and I hate that in the last 12 months, he's gone from a typically grumpy, but lovely teenage boy, to an obnoxious horror who is willing to hit his mum and call her an F'ing C!
any advice from anyone who has been through this/is going through this is much appreciated. Feel like failure