15-year-old DD holiday with boyfriend

[nickthedad]

My 15-year-old daughter has been invited to spend a week in Center Parcs with her boyfriend and his parents. The parents have extended the invite. Separate rooms. I'm not happy about it. Daughter's mother thinks its a good idea. I have shared custody. I think she's too young and should be out with her friends. Am I wrong?

Meet with her parents and see what you think. They have separate rooms and I'm sure from the other parents' point of view, they're being kind by offering and keeping their son happy.

I was in a relationship at 15 that lasted for 4 and a half years. Kids have relationships at that age and there's not really any way to stop them. You especially cannot stop it being a serious relationship; if that's the way it goes, that's the way it goes!

Honestly, if the parent's are there, they are responsible (which I assume they are) and there are separate rooms, I would let her go. Of course that is your decision though.

Is the issue that they might have sex? Surely they are just as likely to have sex when not on holiday as when they are?

If the issue is that she is too young to go away without you then it's probably time to question if you're being a bit overprotective

If it's about them having sex , kids will find a way whether they're at Centre Parcs or not.

Your overreacting completely

I'd be having a frank conversation with parents about how I didn't want sex to happen at 15

Shouldn't that conversation be had with dd.

If you don't agree to this, You are sending her a message that you don't trust her.

Alternatively you are sending her the message that you want to protect her from being in a situation she might not yet be ready to handle or from doing something in the heat of the moment that with hindsight she regrets.
Or that you think that at 15 she is too young to be going on holiday with a boyfriend and the level of seriousness that implies.

TeenandTween definitely from a parents point of view but I'd be surprised if a teenager saw it this way!

I remember being very unaware of my mother's want to protect me and thinking she always overreacted. To me everything she did was because she was being unfair and wanted to be miserable. Not true of course but that's how I saw it! From what I've experienced, I'm in the vast majority of teenagers that felt that way at the time!

If only they realised we wanted to protect them, this parenting malarkey would become a whole lot more simple!