Teens reading threads

[bobalinga]

What do you do if you discover your teen has read the thread where you were upset at their behaviour and needed to let off steam so posted to mumsnet (cos no teen ever reads here voluntarily)?
Actually, the thread was shown to the teen and has now caused more upset and destruction than before. Personally i think mumsnet should be a place where mums can safely let off steam and get advice. Any thoughts?

Who showed them???!

I totally agree with you.

Perhaps you could have a word about privacy, how mn is like a diary to you and you wouldn't read her diary, she shouldn't read your posts on mn.

Also, was the advice you were given on that thread something that you could share with her constructively? Maybe it could serve to let her know how unacceptable her behaviour was?

oh .....

who showed it to her and was it with the intention of helping or hindering?

problem is the WWW is open to anyone at all and nothing is ever a secret.....

it is a risk that you take , but it is vastly unfair for someone to show her...

I would use it as a chance to build bridges

explain that it was anonymous and you wanted to get some suppor to help dd and yourself and partner if you have one

not very helpful for whoever showed her to have done so..advice slightly depends on that

have you changed your psoting name and covered your tracks now

I know how you feel my dd1 keeps badgering for my uiser name and I know she could find it if she was a bit more pc savvy

I'll have to explain to her when she finally starts talking.
I hope those tht showed her had best intentions but given they don't really know my daughter I don't think it was a good thing to do. I would never repeat to a child any vent a mum has done. We all need to vent about those in our lives however much we love them.
Daughter has been allowed to vent to various people and not one will let on what she says (and again, I think parents should be told. No other adult really has the right to hide important things about your child from you)
One day my daughter will learn that only family sticks byyou and these others would drop her likea hot coal if she got sick or became brain damaged or got into trouble.

My dds know that I come on here, they know my username and, almost certainly, my password (no secrets in this house!) I try to make sure that there is nothing really awful that I put because I am conscious that anyone can read what I've written. I trust them implicitly, but I guess that they might still be nosy and read it - but then I could read the stuff they talk about on MSN - so we all have to trust each other. I'm also aware that other people might figure out who I am, not just my own dds.

I've sometimes asked how they feel if I ask a question or make a point, and they've never yet said not to.

I've posted anonymously a couple of times for very sensitive issues, and on subjects that I definitely wouldn't want them reading.

Who has shown this to your dd? Friend of yours or friend of hers? What exactly did they want to achieve?