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Eldest DS has a girlfriend. Help! Not done this bit before as a parent.

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Phaslosttheplot · 15/04/2017 23:14

My 16yr DS told me this week he has a girlfriend. His first that I know about anyway. They have been friends for a while but now I guess things have moved on. I am really unsettled with it though and a bit freaked that he is moving into the adult world and adult consequences too. Advise please! Should I just keep my nose out (I feel I should)? If your kids have been there before, would you say there are any do's or dont's?

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LoveBeingAMum555 · 17/05/2017 23:38

Agree with all of the above. Welcome her into your home and treat her pretty much as you would a male friend except for thinking about sleeping arrangements if she does stay over. As for condoms, they are expensive and I would rather they were readily available in our bathroom cabinet if they are needed but I don't make a fuss about it.

I was a bit surprised at how intense these teen relationships are. My DS is only 16 but talks as if they will be together for the rest of their lives. I just go along with it and I have to say that so far he has been more settled, calmer and happier than when he didn't have a girlfriend!

Teenageromance · 18/05/2017 07:40

I too have found my dds first teenage relationship to be very intense and then talking about being together for a long time. What are other people's experience of how this plays out - do they eventually drift apart and how difficult is it to get through?

Teenageromance · 19/05/2017 07:36

Bump

engineersthumb · 19/05/2017 07:53

My two are far too young at the moment but personal experience states that the teenage heart is a fickle thing so I wouldn't worry too much...even if she has tattoos and facial piercings!

Teenageromance · 19/05/2017 10:20

So you mean they can feel intensely and then just drift apart? It's so long since I was a teenager.

engineersthumb · 19/05/2017 11:38

Most adults struggle to maintain stable long term relationships (ok most men!).So I wouldn't buy names cards for Christmas dinner yet... maybe plan an extra place but not namedSmile

Teenageromance · 19/05/2017 11:53

More worried about feelings being hurt when they do split -

engineersthumb · 19/05/2017 16:06

The occasional pride wounding is just part of growing up so I wouldn't worry on that account.

user1494669468 · 22/05/2017 20:08

I have a 17 year old dd what's everyone's understanding on this official not official but the boys can go and get with other girls?

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