Failed as a parent . Getting a lock fitted on my bedroom to keep money and me safe,

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Tomorrow i admit defeat and get a lock fitted on my bedroom door to stop drug addicted son stealing or harming me when i say no . He 16 police and social services not intrested. Dad long stopped caring new girlfield more intresting..MY home is no longer my safe place its my worse nightmare and the place i am most scared.

No expert advice , but have been in a similar situation but without the violence . It sucks any joy out of life doesn't it , you are constantly on guard waiting for the next 'incident' , whether they are hours , days or weeks apart , you can never ever relax .
I would agree with others though , don't leave your home , not if you want there to be anything worth coming back to at a later date , also if it gets known as a drugs house , it will take a very long time before people stop knocking on the door expecting to be able to get some .
Do you have access to his social media at all ? I got on my sons and took screenshots of all his facebook convos and then posted on his page explaining what I would do if anyone offered or sold him drugs . A lot of people de-friended him after telling him what an evil bitch loon I was , but it made it a lot harder for him to get anything as word travels fast in that particular community !

Fruitcider has given you excellent advice OP. Don't abandon your property, it will become a drug den and you may end up loosing the house.

Don't abandon your home!!!!

No I will throw him out then but it will be secure at present the back gate out has a latch lock and the inside garage door lock is broken but his dad advised police it was old so broke with age .. it's been fixed later today.so with luck I have a full secure house by middle of next week .

You aren't a bad parent. Some kids do just give us more grief. Usually they do come out of it and all is well. But you shouldn't have to live like this. Unless he makes steps to address it and respects you then he has to leave.

He's 16. Can't you kick him out? I know it might sound harsh but if he's so bad you're not safe in your own home, is it really worth keeping him there? You never know it might give him the kick up the arse he needs to straighten up. Next time he's out, pack a bag and change the locks.

As he under 18 and in education I stuck with him until I press charges and he could even still be bailed to this address..But we think alike secure home .Bag back and disappear. It will be bliss I have asked SS for help and police so it Will be a hard case to prove neglect.. I provided drug support and he declined ..Game over I can't stand the sight of him now..