I have a 14 year old daughter, who has been allowed to use Instagram on the terms that I have the password and every now and then I'll check it to make sure things are ok.
At the weekend a boy had sent her messages asking her to send naked photos of her self to him, to start with my daughter was saying 'yes ok but my mum is in the kitchen at the moment' or ' I can't at the moment as I'm going out' basically agreeing but making excuses not to do it straight away. Then she sent a message back telling him that she had lied and that she didn't really want to send photos because she thinks she fat and ugly and that really it's wrong. (Felt proud that she was honest). He obviously said all the right things...your beautiful, got a great body, I won't pressure you.
I spoke with her, we are quite open and honest. We went through the dangers of doing this and how she has to have self respect and he shouldn't of asked her to send photos.
Then last night he was pressuring again for photos, this time though my daughter must have deleted some messages because they didn't make sense, she had asked 'when would you do it' and the reply was 'got to go now could you delete messages that are...you know' ended with a wink face.
I confronted her again but was much more stern this time, asking exactly what it is he is asking her for and what messages he needs to delete. She told me he keeps asking for naked photos.
Thing is I know hormones are raging, I know it's normal, and if they didn't have a screen to hide behind that this boy probably wouldn't even ask her to do that. But I'm not sure how to handle it, I've banned her off Instagram (hate social media really).
We are yet to have a proper conversation about it, thing is she maybe 14 but she is under SENCO and actually is delayed by 3 years, she is vulnerable and a little naive. But I think she has her head screwed on, just she doesn't want to look like she's not 'cool'.
Has anyone been through this? How did you handle it?
Teenagers are such hard work.
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birchykel · 22/02/2017 07:58
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04/03/2017 19:24
I have a 15 dd and if I saw this I think I would completely lose my shit! I would find out who he was and where he lived and tell his mother! I would tell the school and I would ban social Media completely. Not that I would over react or anything 
It's so hard having a teenager I agree you just have to hope that you have instilled enough in them and that they make the right choices.
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