My grown up son is slowly becoming a bit of a loner in his spare time. He had a brilliant time socially while he was at college. Now, most of them who he had fun with have left home & gone to university. They all have new lives & he has been left behind. He finds the friends he has left at home boring. He is self employed, is good at what he does & enjoys it. He meets older people through his work but not people his own age. His hobbies are running & going to the gym, which can be lonely hobbies.
He doesn't talk about his feelings. I keep probing, to the point I get on his nerves, but get nothing. He insists he's fine, and certainly seems cheerful enough and motivated in his work & hobbies.
I, on the other hand, am worried that he's going to miss out on fun. There's clubbing, concerts, festivals, lads holidays he seems to be missing out on now. He doesn't have a girlfriend either. I'm so worried he's just going to become more & more of a loner in his spare time and will, end up lonely. I go on about it but he does nothing to change the situation. Indeed, how do you change it?
Sorry for the long post, had to get it all off my chest.