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Teenagers

Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

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this has been done before - recently too! today i has a 13 year old girl round for pregnancy test! 13!!!!

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Tortington · 26/02/2007 22:05

i get home from work and my dd says " mum i have a friend. and when i say i have a friend i mean its really a friend ok"
"erm ok"
"well she had sex and thinks she's pregnant and i told her you don't mind talking about sex and stuff and might be able to help her. cos if her mum finds out she will chuck her out."
" erm.. ok - well she needs to go to the doctors and get a test dne - pronto - cos i assume she'ss want an abortion and its not fair to just ignore it and have a late one"

so i invited her over for tea bought a pregnancy test. and did the deed. sh'es not. THANK GOD

but some of the conversations i was having this evening were - umm surreal!

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CheesyFeet · 27/02/2007 10:23

nice one Custy

hope I have the same relationship with my dd when she is a teenager.

Glad the test was neg

Pimmpom · 27/02/2007 10:26

The thing that i find so frightening is what you said about it being the 'good ones'.

When you have small ones, you would never believe it could happen. Having a teenager now, I would be a fool to think that.

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Tortington · 27/02/2007 10:35

i know its so true. i think i was stillplaying with sindies at 13.

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Marina · 27/02/2007 10:41

Me too custy.
I hope I am as good a mum to my teen dcs when the time comes, as you are

BabiesEverywhere · 27/02/2007 12:27

13 year olds have sex !!!

So when do responsible parents tell their children about...I was planning doing the big talk when my DD was 15 years old.

Twinkie1 · 27/02/2007 12:31

God you must be a great parent for your teenage daughter to bring her friends to you - I only hope that DD has that sort of trust in me.

I didn't even know about periods when I was that age let alone sex - SM being a biology teacher didn;t seem to help me - knew where test tube babies came from as saw programme on it when I was 12 so I thought all babies were grown in a little glass tube - god it all came as a big shock!!

Budababe · 27/02/2007 12:40

I think it is fantastic that your DD thought that she could talk to you. You do always seem to me to be a great Mum - it's obv paying off!

Pimmpom · 27/02/2007 13:03

That's just the thing though Twinkie - it is not like it was when we were 13, it is a different world now!

Hope you're joking Babieseverywhere about having the big talk at 15! (wouldn't want your name coming true!)

daisy1999 · 27/02/2007 13:07

slightly off the point I know but it makes me soo cross when I see the signs at the hospital stating that any girl 10 or over who needs an xray must be asked if they are pregnant!!!!

staceym11 · 27/02/2007 13:13

10? asking if they'r pregnant?!

Blu · 27/02/2007 13:14

Custy - could you let me have your phone number so that I can start getting DS (5) to learn it by heart? You can't prepare for teenage-hood early enough, I feel!

daisy1999 · 27/02/2007 13:24

honestly stacey! I would be mortified for my daughter and for me if they asked her at 10 if she could be pregnant. I'm annoyed that they can do this.

Marina · 27/02/2007 15:58

If they can go through puberty and have their periods at ten, they can theoretically get pregnant daisy
The radiographers have to check or they might be sued, I guess. But very sad just the same

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Tortington · 27/02/2007 18:55

blu - erm no once mine are gone out the door - i'm locking it and banning teenagers.

today dd told me that she'sscared of phoning the doctors for an appointment she added " but not scared of having sex with a strange lad eh mum ?! ha"

which summed up my feelings.

i said to dd " she better had,or i will seriously have to comtemplate my next move"

whatever the fuck that means!

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Mirage · 28/02/2007 23:10

Your daughter is lucky to have you as her mum & your daughter's friend is lucky to have your dd as her mate too.

I'm surprised that the scare didn't put the friend off sex for a bit!

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Tortington · 28/02/2007 23:15

I don't really know the girl but she seems quiet and sweet and the kind of girl you would want your daughter to have! I still have the whole thing in my head kind of like a limbo thought. i don't quite know what to do. on the one hand i want her to take responsability and phone the doctors - on the other i'm doubtful she will. and she told dd today that she's 'finishing' with tis lad - but it might be a rouse - i dunno. so i think family planning - then i think 'NO' custy - thats a step too far. so i have to push second hand through dd - with the odd " has she phned the doctors yet? whether or not sh'es going out with this lad isn't the point - she needs to go" but i'm minful of my relationship with dd and i cant keep doing this - i guess when the friend turns up preggers at 15 i will feel rubbish

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Saggarmakersbottomknocker · 28/02/2007 23:20

Custy - you've done your best, short of dragging her to family planning or speaking to her parents.

Hopefully the scare will be enough to get her sorting herself out for next time.

Christ though, 13! My dd's 13.

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