repairing a damaged relationship with ones teenager

[winnie]

Can anyone point me to on line information, books etc about this? Any first hand experience?

I feel like (and those around me tell me) that I have tried everything. But dd has moved out but I am desperate for our relationship not to deteriorate further

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Sorry, Winnie, this may not be much help but have you tried Relate? They have a dept called Relateen which counsels teenagers by themselves and they may be able to point you in the right direction.

I believe that you may be able to get family therapy via your GP initially.

thanks mumblechum

Mediation/family therapy is on the cards. I think I am wondering as much about practical steps I can take. I am usually a rational person but I seem to be reacting from a very emotionally hurt level and I know I need to take a step back. Dd has me and me alone. She has no imput from paternal family (other than negative from father) and my parents who were her roel models and extended family have both died in recent years. The love & responsibility I feel for her is huge but our relationship has crumbled in the last year I feel quite desperate but this is not a good, motivating emotion.