Any good punishments that you have found work really well in a teenager?

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At the mo I use bed time but Im sure there will come a time when this doesnt work quite as well as I would like!

Remove mobile &/or PC access

Funny you should say that because today she wound me up so much (she was at computer) I told her she had to miss the computer for a week. That was late this afternoon and so far shes been quite nice to me- trouble is I now feel so guilty as its half term and know she was looking forward to being on it- but I will not cave in!!!!

I don't think pnishments work, especially when they get bigger. How do you enforce your will if your teen is bigger or stronger? Better to come up with a talking strategy.
Punishment also leads to seething resentment.
Mind you, I can't claim success either :-(

There's a book I have, which I bought because it was recommended here called Get out of my life but first take me and Alex into town, which is about teenagers. I started reading it and have put it down again but I'll see if I can find the thread about it. There were strategies like threatening to talk to their friends in your underwear iirc.

Taking dd's hair straighteners away would be a living hell for her!!!

Good old thread about teenagers
and the book's here

I don't think punishment works with teenagers, as someone has already said. You have to reason with them and be very very careful not to descend into shouting and arguments.

Mind you, having said that, DH totally lost it with DD yesterday and really scared her into being good. She even gave him a grovelling apology for her behaviour!!!

One thing that I vowed I would never do was to ground them. If I was annoyed with them, the last thing I wanted was for them to still be hanging around the house.

No msn

no msn def works with my ds at the moment, especially as he has a girlfriend he chats to on it

no msn and no computor. works better than pocket money for me as it is so instant and he HATES it

ThePrisoner always think grounding punishes you more than them cos they are stuck in moaning

I wont let her on msn as Im frightened who she maybe talking to. I have in the past almost grounded her apart from she was allowed in the back garden, which did hurt her being treated like her 2 younger DDs. I guess my only problem is that although she does generally at the mo except her pubishments her memory fails her everytime- she will still do it even if she knows shes going to be punished!

Hi there Really pleased to find another mum who worrys about MSN. dd loves it but hey the rows MSN causes between them isn't worth the effort. still allowing dd on there just not so often and have explained best thing to do if it gets heated is say she has to go.

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i have dd 13 and ds 11 when they do something wrong i explain theat as their mother i have to do something and i ask them what they would do if they were me !!!
confusses the hell out of them but they seem to go quiet for a while !!!

Threatening to take away their mouse.

Sorry to be thicK{havent had much sleep as I have a sick child in the house and trying to show DH i CAN cope!} But do you mean a real mouse or the computer mouse? LOLS

i have to say that i have tried all sorts of things as punishments grounding, aking away mobiles, pocket money, computer access, tv, game boy and playstation nothing works, even tried bribery as an incentive, nothing works with my ds1 age 14.5. full out of ideas.

my nephews had a fight on the school bus once and the punishment that my sisiter inflicted on them was that they had to picked up by my Dad.

Can you imagine your Grandpa's car parked between 2 school buses waiting for you and your brother to come out of your all boys school?

He didn't have to do it for long