How do you get teen boys to help around the house?

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Two DS, 17 and 19. They do very little around the house and I really don't want them to end up like their dad, who did very little to help when we were together. I've tried giving them jobs etc, but it falls down when they go out or are at their dad's and I end up doing everything myself. Last night I refused to cook tea until the sunk was free of dishes. I need good, practical advice. They argue about it and it gets me down.

I hide their devices to get big things done. - e.g. hoovering

I'm not a big one for rotas

I have, this weekend told them I will no longer be doing their washing (13 and 15)

In extremis, I have been known to slam upstairs and shout a bit, or bugger off out the house in a mood. It's a language they understand

Change the WiFi password everyday. Tell them they have to do their chores to earn it.

Does anyone not have the opposite problem. I have a DS (14) who would willingly do house chores when asked but who doesn't have any time?! Music practice, homework and school stuff take up his whole life. He doesn't have time for video games (we don't have consoles at home anyway), he's not on Facebook, Instagram or whatever kids are on these days. He works and works and every now and then we watch a movie together or do family stuff to be together and I insist on him doing some sport for health. He gets his breakfast, cleans his plate etc after dinner and puts it into dishwasher but I don't have the heart to ask for more because of his schedule. Where do all your DS find time?

They know the wifi password off by heart!
So change it daily and only tell them what it is after the tasks you want completed have been done to your satisfaction.

lastminute1 It sounds like he has enough on his plate. There is no law that says teenagers must share the chores. If you are happy it sounds like he is a hard working boy I'd leave him.
When mine were working hard for exams etc I didn't expect them to do much. I just make sure they knew how to do all the jobs and would chip in a bit in school holidays.