If you have a 13/14yr old dd come and talk to me

[HarryKerry]

Are your dds the following things?

Obsessed with how they look
Obsessed with Internet bloggers
Pouting on Instagram
Constantly bemoaning how 'crap/ugly/untalented' they are in a desperate bid for cooing and hair stroking from their friends/family
Pushing the boundaries on make up wearing
The master of the eye roll

My dd (and her friends) are all of these things. Dd is also clever, pretty, musical, has a great sense of humour blah blah blah etc but I am finding these teenage idiosyncrasies very wearing indeed. Particularly today. Harrumph.

Grump.

Grumble.

Pouting pictures are banned, dd found this out the hard way after I had threatened to post my own pouting pics and tag her if she did any more! which she did, so I did, she doesn't do them anymore.

She is obsessed with youtubers though and loves a good eye roll. Make up nothing too hideous and she is pretty confident in how she looks, don't think it occurs to her that she could look any other way tbh so am glad for that.

My daughter is some of those things on the list to a less extreme degree. For example she loves Internet bloggers but doesn't buy all the merchandise. She loves shopping and fashion but I wouldn't say obsessed there too.

Oh yeah to the devil 3/4 days before her period is due, I don't even make eye contact with her and just chuck her a bar chocolate at regular intervals!

Lol at rosedog and the chocolate.
Dd can be obsessed with how she looks but then can't be bothered.
She likes Internet bloggers but was obsessed with the merchandise for a little while last year not so much this year.
Like OP if I cought her trout pouting on Instagram I would take her technology away. Many of her friends pose quite provocatively in skimpy clothing dd knows if she does the same she will be in big trouble.
She is not so bad at attention seeking although some of the girls in her class go to extremes they all seem allergic to everything, cry at the drop of a hat and have become vegans despite snorfing pepperoni pizza like it's going out of fashion.
I don't mind about make up outside school and school has a strict policy about it so she can't really do much about it.
She is the supreme champion at the eye roll flounce (I think they should make this an Olympic sport as the timing to do both at the same time is pretty amazing)

Yes to the eye roll and internet. Bothered about how she looks to a degree. Doesn't wear much make up and was pretty scornful of the amount of preening that went on with the girls at cadet camp. She's a good girl but the moodiness can be wearing.

Sadik, I could have written that, my dd is exactly the same!

Mine is obsessed with comics & superhero fandoms.

I think I've finally cracked the inspropriate foundation/contouring mess she's been wearing.

I took her to Bobbi Brown in Covent Garden & they did a complete makeover on her. It cost me a £30 tube of tinted moisturiser but she believed the assistants expertise even though I'd been telling her the same.

DD 13
Obsessed with makeup -won't leave the house without foundation, contouring, eye lash curling.
Obsessed with vloggers - especially the dreadful Jack septic eye (revolting name - revolting man)
Eye rolling and door slamming - not as bad as last year.
Completely nocturnal given half a chance - we went out yesterday and came back at 2.30pm - still asleep. ( Apparently my fault because I wasn't here making noise in the house so there was nothing to wake her up.)
Room a complete pit.

My coping strategies:

1. Live by "get out of my life" book !
2. Throw regular chocolate in general direction of DD
3. Muck out her room once a week
4. Don't tolerate rudeness but let most stuff go.. pick battles, win the war!!
5. Be available for cuddles ( she still wants them often)
6. Leave DD alone when she's stroppy and have a nice glass of wine with DH !

Dd isn't particularly interested in fashion or makeup apart from very thin layer of mascara occasionally.
Positively vitriolic about superdry/hollister followers
Obsessed with Dan and Phil but no other bloggers as yet
No pouting on Instagram, mainly posts Harry Potter stuff or deep and meaningful quotations
Really lacks confidence in her own abilities, very kind and considerateasy towards her friends but not herself
She is absolutely lovely to be around most of the time. No periods yet so that may change!

Obsessed with how they look - yes
Obsessed with Internet bloggers - yes
Pouting on Instagram - no not on instagram at all or any other social media -
Constantly bemoaning how 'crap/ugly/untalented' they are in a desperate bid for cooing and hair stroking from their friends/family - no
Pushing the boundaries on make up wearing - not really, wears make up but not OTT
The master of the eye roll - oh yes

I was basically as you described when I was 14. Apart from instagram, because I'm an old lady and there was none of that in my time thank god

Yep, all of the above. Obsessed. And we "don't get how serious and hard her life is". It's a tunnel. And we can't wait for her to come out of it.

Patience and gin is the way forward. And a good sense of humour. The YouTube contouring tutorials are the funniest part. "Contouring" was created by transvestites as a way to alter their manly features to make them look more like a woman. The teenage girls look like robots in it as soon as they hit daylight. But you can't say anything because "you don't understand, it's an art form"

I have a beautiful 13 year old
She loves make up, it's a kind of hobby. None of my other daughters are or were interested.
She loves snapchat and celebs and dancing.
She's fun and full of energy and enthusiasm

She's also incredibly messy, obsessed with what her friends think and quite lazy

She's great I love her energy. She's very different from me.

Mine isn't 13 for another 6 weeks, but thought I would respond anyway...

Obsessed with how they look - well... starting to care a bit more. Doesn't have a thing to wear.
Obsessed with Internet bloggers - yes.
Pouting on Instagram - no. Hates selfies.
Constantly bemoaning how 'crap/ugly/untalented' they are in a desperate bid for cooing and hair stroking from their friends/family - thankfully, no.
Pushing the boundaries on make up wearing - no - but again is just beginning to show an interest.
The master of the eye roll - oh yes.

And also makes a drama out of EVERYTHING.

My DD is 14, I also I have 16 year old who was the same.
Obsessed with how they look Yeah, even though she is beautiful.
Obsessed with Internet bloggers Not so much but slightly yes.
Pouting on Instagram Oh yes! I've told her a smile looks much better!
Constantly bemoaning how 'crap/ugly/untalented' they are in a desperate bid for cooing and hair stroking from their friends/family 50/50.
Pushing the boundaries on make up wearing Yeah, but I'm not too bothered. She can do as she likes with her own face haha.
The master of the eye roll Yep

Dd is 14 in a month

The only thing she does on your list is eye rolling ...

Apart from that she's completely uninterested in pop culture and fashion. She's quite introverted and the only thing she's obsessed with is horses and riding. Her brother has ASD and I suspect she's very close to the ASD end of the NT spectrum

Obsessed with Internet bloggers - oh my goodness yes. just this morning she showed me a "video I would like" of a couple guessing ice cream flavours? I hate to say I also know exactly which two you tubers they were due to her total obsession. We regularly have the "so what does a you tuber actually do?" Conversation in which we conclude that mum (me) just DOESN'T get it. I guess I'm just not cool enough.

Luckily she has an "Instagram aesthetic" which doesn't feature pouty pictures, but lots of party pictures and pictures of sunsets make up products and the sea.

She also has the most ridiculous lipstick collection (totally make up/clothes but I don't think too apparenace obsessed - she seems to see it all as a bit of an 'art') and her birthday is in November but she insisted her sister bought her a specific type of limited edition lipstick about two weeks ago. They're now in a battle about when she can use it.

And yes, she is the TRUE master of the eye roll. And the raised eyebrow. And the "muuuuuum" protest.

She's amicable towards me though - we don't row at all, though I think she can be a spitfire with friends

baringan your daughter sounds pretty very similar to mine! I'm not sure how she'd spend her time if it wasn't for snapchat/makeup/Instagram.

Mine hasn't mastered the eye roll yet but is absolute queen of The Death Stare!!!

Dsd 13, yes to all.

Instagram gets in my tits
'Selfie, tag top 50 boys' #ugly #badhairday

Cue an onslaught of Stunner, gorgeous baby, you're my babe, love you, love you more, dm me babes, slaying it gorgeous. And a shit load of hearts. I cringed so often I no longer look have taught dh how to look so he can check on her content.

Mine is 14 and driving me crazy. Very moody and rude and spends her time in her room or out.
Came here looking for advice actually alive just been hurled abuse at again for removing her phone at 0130 as she was still chatting on it.
My first was bad as a teen but this dd is pushing different boundaries and buttons.