Daughter leaving for uni

[Carol1303]

I just want to know if anyone else is feeling the same as I do right now or if anyone has been through this time and can give me advice. My daughter is off to uni in 2 weeks time, it's only a couple of hours drive away so not the ends of the earth and I am very proud as she achieved fantastic A Level results and surpassed all of her predicted grades.But despite these positives I am not coping. I can sense her excitement and I really want her to enjoy the adventure that is to come over the next 3 years, but even though the drop off day hasn't come yet, I'm in bits when I think about it. I've read some books on coping with this, I try to reason and logic through the negative feelings but I spent the drive to work in tears today and see no way I can hold it together enough to not fall apart when it's time to say good bye and I am so desperate to try and not make my daughter feel bad about going because of my own emotions. At the moment, I can't even type these worlds without crying, so can any one give me some advice on how I can pull myself together enough to go through this without being a total mess in front of her. She is our only child and quite mature so I am not worried about her looking after herself, it's the emptiness that will be left in our home when she has gone. I work full time, I am also studying in my spare time and have some hobbies and a supportive husband but I will just miss having her around as a person. I sometimes wish she had been a terrible teen so I would look forward to the new found peace but she's a nice person who I genuinely get on with and will miss. So far I have hidden all of this from her, but as every day passes and the goodbye gets closer, I feel myself falling apart a little more.

My one and only DD is off on two weeks time and I feel the same. Im sobbing just reading this thread. I have no idea how im going to be on the day hope I can hold it together. She is so excited so im putting on a brave front for her sake.

So how did it go for those parting with daughters / sons for uni? It was worse than I had expected, I am just bereft. Did manage not to cry until we'd left & also managed not to do so when she Skyped last night, but now I'm on my own & just cry all day. Can't eat. Does anyone else feel this way?

Morning. DS1 goes in 2 days time and I am so sad. He's only 2 hours away too but it feels like that's it. The end of his childhood with us. He's really excited and can't wait to go but I don't know how I'll manage seeing his empty bedroom or knowing I won't physically see him for weeks. I wish I could stop the clock. I know this is selfish as he'll have a brilliant time but I will miss him so much. How have the parents who have already delivered their kids to uni coped?

I honestly do not know how I am going to cope & am just so amazed that there seem to be so few others feeling as I do - no one n ear where I live, certainly, although presumably there are & they are just keeping it quiet! I live in a very strong area for academic schools & just about every 18 year old goes to uni...they cannot all be the lucky ones whose kids are going to a uni in London or nearby!
I am seeing a GP today but am not optimistic as they tend to recommend counselling, which I found useless in the past when my son left home & anyway it is Christian based & I am an atheist. I am just crying all day & all I want is to get under the duvet where we so often used to cuddle, and just wait for her to come home.

Gosh! Am reading this in years and I have three years until DD1 hopefully leaves for uni. I have seen so many of my friends go through this this year it has made me realise I only have such a short time left with her at home.
I'm struggling enough with talk of which A levels she'll take and where she might want to study . At the moment firm favourite is Edinburgh, we are in Essex. With all the best will in the world I am trying to subtly dissuade her, pointing out there are courses she could do closer to home!!
On the plus side her sister is counting down the three years and already making plans for moving in to her room.
I was helping a friend (with the help of many bottles of prosecco) cope with her third and final DC leaving for uni at the weekend and sh insisted on playing 'slipping through my fingers ' by ABBA (really not a great choice) and I remembered sobbing my heart out to that song when both my babies started primary school. Cannot for the life of me imagine how I shall cope in three years.

• in tears not years!

I'm feeling like this now. One week until DS leaves & I am bereft I'd really love to know how you got on & how you coped?

I have an only as well so completely understand. You will surprised at how little time they actually spend at uni. She'll be home in 10 weeks if not sooner just as you've got used to her being away then home for Xmas for a month then Easter for another month then she'll be home at the beginning of the summer for weeks on end !

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I am so pleased I have found this thread, DS1 is off to uni in 3 weeks and I feel sick with nerves, due to covid he has basically not left the house In 18 months and he is suddenly leaving home. He is very shy and has always struggled to make friends. He seems to be looking forward to it but a bit nervous so I hiding how I am feeling until he has left. I have 2 other younger children at home thankfully so no empty nest but my god this hurts.

Oh no a zombie thread really hoped I had found like minded people!

Katedan- me too! I started a new thread for this but no one responded. I'm exactly the same - DS leaving a week today. I'm beside myself with nerves & a feeling akin to grief it's awful trying to hide it. Mine is also excited but a bit nervous. He's mainly worried about finding friends I feel plunged back in to when he was at primary school. I have no others at home & DH works long hours so it is empty nest time for me