My partner and I of 4 years have just bought a house and moved in together a month ago.
We were next door neighbours so living basically together with our own space was pretty much how we lived. We have 4 children between us, 2 are 22 years of age and the other 2 are 17 years of age. My partner was very resistant to move in together until our 17 year old children had moved out. After 4 years, I was in a position to buy a house and didn't want to miss my opportunity. My partner chose to come with me on this adventure.
We were practically living together in the last 2 years of our relationship. His unit was basically a chill pad for his 17 year old, I will call him SS2, who could come and go when he pleased and could invite his mates over with no issue to his father.
First week into our new home, SS2 wanted to have some friends over, my partner had a fear of me trying to control what his children did, so I said, no worries.
Everyone was behaving and there was not much to worry about.. 1am in the morning, my bedroom door flies open and here is this teenage kid standing in the doorway. Obviously under the influence, he comes at me while I am sitting in my bed. My partner and I restrain him and my partner takes him home with 3 other friends. As I get up, I smell the distinct odour of drugs wafting up the staircase.. I am very anti-drug and there had been a discussion that there would be no smoking in the house.
Fast forward 3 weeks, I am still smelling drugs within the garage and downstairs, my partner getting angry at me for constantly bringing it up rather than his children who are continuing to disobey our rules.
We come home one night and my partners motorbike is gone, frantic, we call the police to report it stolen, just to find out that my DS has taken the bike. I am beside myself.. My son would not even move my bike without asking let alone steal a bike. My son and the bike are found safe and sound. My son claims he stole it to kill himself, I'm hysterical to hear that. So in my life right now I find that my son is trying to harm himself, my partner is upset that DS stole his bike and wants him charged with theft, and his children continue to smoke drugs in the home, which led to someone kid violating my personal space.
Now, today, my partner and I are divided, and it is all through our children. I strongly believe that my partner and I need to stick together and support each other, but, my partner seems to not have a back bone and continues to be nice to the children, even DS, and distant with me.. What is supposed to be my next move.....