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DD won't take hoody off even in hot weather

54 replies

Apple80 · 12/08/2016 21:37

My 13 year old daughter is constantly in her red hoody and jeans even in this hot weather, TOday we went to the seaside and it was boiling and everyone round us where in t shirts, shorts, or dresses but not my daughter in her hoody and jeans I kept askin her if she was hot but she kept saying she wasn't. I know when I was a teen I wouldn't show my legs so lived in my jeans but had no problem with just having a t shirt on top is anyone else's child like this

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tooearlytobeup · 13/08/2016 13:52

I had the same thing a couple of months ago with my dd. Unfortunately it was self harming here too. Would never have expected it would affect her

Footle · 14/08/2016 04:26

Doesn't sound as if this applies to OP's daughter but it can indicate anorexia.

LunaMay · 14/08/2016 06:06

I've got this at the moment 14yr old would wear hoodies everyday day if she could! She just likes them, nothing sinister or hidden. I can remember my younger siblings having a thing about hoodies too

sandgrown · 14/08/2016 07:20

14 year old DS will not be parted from his hoodie. He was conscious about his weight and even though he has slimmed down he never goes out without the hoodie!

VanillaSugar · 14/08/2016 07:31

Does the hoody have any significance for her? DD is like this - she lived in long sleeved T shirts 3 years ago at the age of 15. Now that she is 18n she lives in 2 hoodies: one she got from Harry Potter World in Florida and the other (rather ghastly) one from her boyfriend. So, she'll be wearing a pretty dress and then spoil the look with a black/blue monstrosity. But do you know what? It's OK. We laugh at it and we let her her on with it 😁

chaplin1409 · 14/08/2016 07:33

I have a 14 year old boy and a 15 year old girl and this is regular for us especially my daughter. There are no issues no self harm or pregnancy just teenager behaviour. My son is more wear his soft shell then pull the sleeves up which I just don't get. Teenagers are a strange breed lol

thepurplehen · 14/08/2016 07:52

My son is like this. With him it's axon inaction of laziness and comfort from wearing the same old thing - he hates new clothes!

veryproudvolleyballmum · 14/08/2016 07:57

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bearleftmonkeyright · 14/08/2016 08:03

My DD wears her coat in really warm weather. I truly think it's a cocooning comforting thing. She is 14 and has gone through a period of self harming but I don't think these two things are linked.

madgingermunchkin · 14/08/2016 08:07

I lived in a fleece I had because I was too shy and introverted to talk to my mum (who was difficult to talk to at the best of times) about needing bras, so lived in an old sports bra my sister had given me in a pile of clothes I could have. It was dark and my school shirts were white so I never too my fleece off.

God it was warm.

LynetteScavo · 14/08/2016 08:19

I think it's a weird teen thing.

Last year DS1 spent a sulking on the beach fully clad in black. I couldn't bear another week of it this year so haven't gone to the beach. Next year he'll be 18 so he can either come with us and enjoy the beach or stay at home. DH and I don't "get" it because we weren't that sort of teenager.

SocksRock · 14/08/2016 08:24

I'm 38 and live in jeans and a hoody in almost all weather conditions. I just like the way it feels to be snuggled in it :-)

kiki22 · 14/08/2016 08:28

My 4 year old walks around with an unzipped zipper and his hood up unless its roasting and I make him take it off its not just teens.

Maybe its the teen equivalent of a favourite comforter?

Evergreen17 · 14/08/2016 08:33

Totally normal.
I grew up in Spain, in a 40 degrees summer you will see me wearing long jeans, doc martens and black Nirvana t-shirt all summer

I have no idea how I did it.

Best to leave her to her own choice Smile

LittleCandle · 14/08/2016 08:45

DD2 wore her school leavers hoodie in Florida 3 years ago and we were about ready to strangle her. She claimed to feel the cold, but she was just being stroppy. I think it is because teenagers are feral. They should be locked up somewhere during the teen years and only allowed out when they get over the stroppy part!

Sofabitch · 14/08/2016 08:50

To those of you saying self harm.. a bit ott. 1 in 4 teenagers will self harm. Its very much more common than it was.

I first realised that my teenager had self harmed when she started wearing hoodies all the time. So not an over reaction. But a sensible thing to rule out.

Spottytop1 · 14/08/2016 08:57

All my teenagers wear/wore hoodies constantly. It's nothing to do with self harm or tattoos - they just like there hoodies. My 20yr old still lives in his hoody day & night at the moment as he is on holiday from work
& when he gets home from work he puts it straight on.

He says they are comfortable and that's it.
Don't jump to the conclusion it's due to do thing bad - possibly just her 'thing'.

YorkieDorkie · 14/08/2016 09:04

I remember having one of my riding lessons as a teen and it started to absolutely pour down and the wind was awful. I had started out the lesson in just a tshirt. My instructor who incidentally was also my DSM (so had extra interest in looking out for me!) asked if I wanted to get my coat and I said no. Every other rider had theirs and I just sat through the rest of the lesson in my tshirt. Why? I'll never know.

junebirthdaygirl · 14/08/2016 12:52

Very regular. Just be prepared for her going to school all winter in nothing except her school shirt. Teens like to be different and unless you have other worries l wouldn't waste my energy commenting on it.

bearleftmonkeyright · 14/08/2016 13:28

Sofabitch, what is it with teenagers and se!f harming? My DD is 14 and what I thought as placid and happy but she eventually admitted to me she had cut herself and it was like a bolt from the blue. I do think it's worth considering but many teenagers do where hoodies and coats constantly. I had a leaflet from mind in teenage mental health and it's recommended that you kind of wrap yourself in a duvet to calm yourself down if you feel like harming yourself or that you are very upset and angry. God being a teenagers rough.

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes · 14/08/2016 13:32

I was like this. Mahoosive hoodie all summer.

I thought I was fat.

bigbluebus · 14/08/2016 15:14

DS 19 wears the same clothes all year round - jeans and thick brushed long sleeved cotton shirts - regardless of temperature. He has loads of short sleeved shirts (rarely wears tshirts) and shorts in his wardrobe but they only get worn on holiday abroad. As soon as he is back in blighty he resorts to his 'uniform' - even when it's 30 C. They are indeed an odd breed.

Rolypoly · 14/08/2016 15:31

I work in a girls' school. In June they were all complaining of being hot so I suggested (reasonably I thought) that they take their blazers off. They all refused - they hated showing their arms apparently. I don't recall being bothered about my arms when I was their age. Perhaps 'unattractive' arms have become a focus of concern for today's teens?

nooka · 15/08/2016 02:40

My ds (17) likes to wear lots of clothes. When he was younger he would layer up t-shirts, long sleeved t-shirts and several hoodies, all of which tended to be a bit tatty as he got very attached to them. In the last couple of years he's got much smarter. This year he has mostly worn a t-shirt, smart (but unironed) shirt, blazer and great coat with a woolen scarf. It's only now when the temperature has gone over 30C that he has very reluctantly stopped wearing the greatcoat. Still has the scarf though! He always makes an impression Grin

No self esteem issues and no self harming (we do occasionally see most of his body at home) he just likes to keep his skin under wraps (the other day he was pondering wearing gloves too). Strange child!

Timetogetup0630 · 15/08/2016 16:47

Normal teenage behaviour IMO my nephew was always like this sitting in the beach sulking in black hoody and skinny jeans and generally being a bit dramatic. Definitely not swimming either !

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