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Ear peircing ?

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mummylove2monsters · 03/08/2016 20:54

I'm not going to say who thinks what but my husband and I disagree on weather our 14 year old son should be slowed to pierce his ears - votes below please xxxx

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mummylove2monsters · 03/08/2016 20:54

Alowed not slowed sorry X

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sooperdooper · 03/08/2016 20:57

I think at 14 it's his own choice, I had my ears pierced when I was about 8 and had x2 cartilage piercings when I was 14 - plus it'll easily heal over if he goes off it

pegomassive1 · 03/08/2016 20:58

I think 14 is an age where you can make decisions such as this which are easily remedied/reversed
They can take responsibility for cleaning/keep them hygienic
I'd say go for it
Would the parent who declined this have said no if son was a daughter I wonder Hmm

dementedpixie · 03/08/2016 20:58

Wouldn't bother me. My nephew has had his done for years (is 11 years old now)

MephistoMarley · 03/08/2016 21:00

Why shouldn't he? They are his ears and he's old enough to understand the consequences.

SavoyCabbage · 03/08/2016 21:01

My twelve year old got hers done last week. We said she could after year six but she didn't get them done until after year seven. She thinks she's the bees knees.

Heratnumber7 · 03/08/2016 21:06

Better a reversible piercing than a tattoo!

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mummylove2monsters · 03/08/2016 21:06

Thankyou X my husband says no , I say yes - my husband is furious at the thought of it which I find crazy as he allows other things that I think my son should be older to be allowed ( curfew times ect ) .
I did ask what he'd say if it was our daughter - he says it's different and that my son will look like a Ned ( chav ) . He already hates my sons shoulder length hair , clothes ect - mmmm I'll wait for more replies before I tackle it X

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mummylove2monsters · 03/08/2016 21:08

And yes a lot better than a tattoo or major peircing - we are only talking little studs here ! X

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Ratbagcatbag · 03/08/2016 21:09

Fine for ear piercing but absolutely under no circumstances let him get a stretcher. They look horrific and can need surgery to repair.

sooperdooper · 03/08/2016 21:12

Ugh yes I agree on the stretcher they look awful but just studs/hoops are fine

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mummylove2monsters · 03/08/2016 21:12

No way I bloody hate stretchers - we are only talking little studs - nothing that can't be removed if regretted or required for a job x

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Timetogetup0630 · 04/08/2016 15:15

I would think he was a Chav if he was in my school.
Sorry.

SanityClause · 04/08/2016 15:33

A terrible spell of weather.

Seriously, though, I would allow it if it fits in with school dress code.

Also, please don't say "chav". It's really unacceptable to judge people because of their social class.

frenchfancy · 04/08/2016 16:32

I have an age limit of 13 in my family. I only have DDs but I don't see why equality shouldn't work both ways so I say let him.

DropYourSword · 04/08/2016 16:35

You should have seen what I was getting pierced at only a year older than him!

m0therofdragons · 04/08/2016 16:35

This has made me realise, I've not seen any boys with ears pierced round here. When I was at school there were usually a handful. My memory is that they were always the trouble makers but that was in the 90s. No idea re teen fashions now.

notamummy10 · 04/08/2016 16:37

I'd allow him, as long as he takes responsibility for the piercing and understands the procedure & risks if he doesn't keep to the aftercare!

Fairylea · 04/08/2016 16:40

I'd let him do it. He can always take it out and no one would know.

On the stretched ear thing... My husband had massive stretched ears when we met and had them repaired about 4 years ago when he started working in an office job. Cost him £500 at our local piercing / body modification studio. Everyone is totally shocked when they find out how big they used to be stretched, they look like they've never even been pierced.

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mummylove2monsters · 04/08/2016 20:18

Also, please don't say "chav". It's really unacceptable to judge people because of their social class.
I don't think chav is a word to do with social class - chav ( in my mind ) means someone naughty - whatever social class xxxx

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HSMMaCM · 04/08/2016 20:31

Should have had them done at the beginning of the holidays, so he can take them out for PE.

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mummylove2monsters · 04/08/2016 20:53

I think hed look fab - he's got the hair and face for it - he's quite soft looking ( longish blonde hair - big eyes and eyelashes that most of us would love to have ) so I personally don't think it'll make him look tough but his dad is convinced only bad lads have pierced ears - I think that was maybe true in my school days but not now . My son does ballet - tap and is doing a hairdressing course at school so he's far from the tough boy that my husband fears a couple of earings will make him look - silly I think but I have to convince hubby to allow it ( don't want to undermine him as my son knows his views on the subject ) X

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Mummydummy · 22/08/2016 13:21

My daughter was 13 I think when she got her first piercings in her ears - she now has a few in lobes and cartilige and is planning a nose piercing (shes now 16). I'm fine with it - though she has to save up to pay for them and strictly follow hygiene/safety advice afterwards. I think 14 is old enough to decide.

I've said I'm not keen on septum, eyebrow, tongue, belly button and absolutely no to tattoos (though she couldn't yet anyway). Though to be fair I've seen a few belly buttons done on her friends that parents don't know about so in reality she could go and get further piercings if she wanted.

Before she sounds like a really gothy punk I have to say she's quite a girly girl. I'm relaxed about most of these things because I was very trendy when younger and see it as youthful self expression, but I'm clear about the ones I don't like (that's just my personal taste). Also, better to go with these little things than encourage them to do worse through acts of rebellion. Maybe say that to your DH?

Hulababy · 22/08/2016 13:26

I personally don't like earrings on boys BUT that is personal preference and I don't judge teen boys and adult males with piercings.

As I would allow a girl to have their ears pierced at that age (and younger) then I would allow a boy to do so also.

Is your son asking his father to pay for it and organise it, or is he willing to pay from his own funds?

At 14y many piercing places do not require parental permission.

SquirmOfEels · 22/08/2016 13:30

It's a bad time to get them done. Better at the start of the school holidays than the end, assuming he is educated in school.

If he is, what are the school rules about the wearing of jewellery? Not just day to day, but also for PE.

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