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Challenges to get 16yo's out of the house

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Timetogetup0630 · 22/07/2016 06:15

Three of us are single Mums with 16 year old sons who go to school together. They all sit and play a complicated online game with each other all day, every day. They do not have holiday jobs and seemingly no hobbies or interests outside the house. Even Pokemon Go has only encouraged them to leave the house once since it was launched.
We are worried about their gaming obsession, lack of social skills development and lack of exercise and fresh air.
We are going to get them together and issue them with some challenges to get them out of the house and doing something. My challenge is to tell them to go to the nearest big city on public transport, take a photograph of themselves on a very famous landmark and get themselves back home.

Any more suggestions for getting stroppy teens out of the house ?

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AndNowItsSeven · 23/07/2016 11:53

Ever time people say block wifi I don't get it , don't your teens have phone data?

BakewellSliceAgain · 23/07/2016 12:02

I run out of food then force mine to go shopping. Teenage hunger is motivating.

SoupDragon · 23/07/2016 12:52

don't your teens have phone data?

Not when they've used it all up they don't, no. and online gaming uses it all up quite efficiently.

SoupDragon · 23/07/2016 12:55

Ds1 turned into a social butterfly when he went into the coeducational 6th form at his boys only school :) I think the girls kind of dragged the boys along in their wake.

Seacrets · 23/07/2016 14:10

I agree with ssd.
Leave them be, they are doing no harm and forcing them out will result in them doing the absolute minimum you ask. They will do that because IME they do like to please their parents even at 16. You can't make them enjoy it.
And I'd never turn off the wifi.

DS2 would rather die than go camping. Been there at Scouts, never again.
I have two boffin types so I know exactly what you mean. One thing they did like were academic summer schools. After Y11 they did one at the local 6th form and after Y12 they did Headstart.

Neither of mine would do NCS and I don't blame them. it's heavily promoted at difficult teens. A student I know got a summer job with NCS, the whole thing was a shambles and the teenagers were appallingly behaved.

Timetogetup0630 · 23/07/2016 15:35

Where we live NCS seems to involve " Nice" middle class kids whose parents want them out of the house for the summer......
They might be appallingly behaved though......

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Timetogetup0630 · 23/07/2016 15:37

As for " turn off the WiGi" well bitter loll last time I did that it took the kids 20 mins to crack my password.

DS is reluctantly cutting the grass at the moment.

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SoupDragon · 23/07/2016 15:47

You need to choose a more evil password :)

DS1 (17) is flitting about somewhere having left at lunchtime with only an Oyster card and his phone.

DS2 (15) is in his darkened room in case sunlight turns him into a small pile of ash.

We go away tomorrow and they are sulking because I refused to pay for wifi in our villa. At least they'll get some sun and exercise searching for the public hotspots.

Snazarooney · 23/07/2016 15:52

Buy them a Fitbit and challenge them to do 10,000 steps a day.

Gym membership over the summer?

antimatter · 23/07/2016 15:56

my DS (he is also in a selective grammar school) is doing NCS as we speak and will finish it on the 29th
he was very worried that he won't fit in but all went very well and he said everyone is very nice and kind

once your son will get a job he will be good example to his mates

Mycraneisfixed · 23/07/2016 15:57

No suggestions but I love that you understand your son so wellGrin

Seacrets · 23/07/2016 16:20

They were definitely not naice MC kids Wink. The poor girl was only 19 herself and left in sole charge of a bunch of delinquents recalcitrant teens with nothing to do in an empty church hall.

We just had a week away and DS2, who is a cave dweller, actually left his phone in the hotel room and READ A BOOK.

Soleye · 23/07/2016 17:52

Lucky your ds would even consider any 'challenges'. Mine would laugh. He was actually looking green from lack of sunlight till he was turfed out on his summer trip.

Timetogetup0630 · 23/07/2016 17:55

Wel, I have no idea if they will accept any challenges ! Just looking for advice and ideas.
I have been giving mine vitamin D supplement all winter due to lack of sunlight and nev goes out of the house.

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ssd · 23/07/2016 19:34

try working on their guilt op!

we're just back from a lovely walk along the beach with ds2, we even went into a naice trendy coffee shop and he sat with us (once I'd dragged him out the car)

make them feel bad and they'll reluctantly leave their rooms!

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